Category: Personal Insight

  • Surprised to silence

    My mind has been in over drive of late. With my birthday weekend having so many ups and downs and work not helping I have been kind of numb.  Going through the motions. Work sleep and work again.  Jane has been my rock through this.  More so then I knew.  Along with my poly wife…

  • To my wives…

    This is the follow up to the Guilty Goodbye, since I made one critical mistake.  When I arranged to meet Lilly on the Friday before I went home, I didn’t advise either of my wives of the rendezvous.  We have an open relationship and tell each other everything.  I left this detail out, and even…

  • Guilty Goodbye

    Trust me, I really wanted the booty call. I enjoyed my time with Lilly a lot! We connected strongly and I do not want to hurt her, but I do know I will miss her too. Majority of my woman I have this connection with, and it also stirs up feelings. And I worry about…

  • Ups and Downs

    This weekend was not what I expected.  Lets just say that for my expectations there were some holes.  Don’t get me wrong, the weekend was fun, for the most part.  Just that some unexpected situations arose.  So lets cover that first. Thursday and Friday both Krystalla and myself noticed my cat was not behaving normally.…

  • Feeling limitations

    For some of you that follow me I have a few fwb. Well if I was to count them up you would be shaking your head. Doesn’t mean I have sex all the time. We are all busy with life, family, work and friends. This is my dilemma of late on balancing the relationships. Of…

  • No mind control here

    No mind control here

    So how has things changed. Well for one is that I am not worried as much about it. Of course I still have that little voice in the back of my head asking if it is hard? Will it get hard? And will it stay hard? This will never go away as much as I…

  • 50 Shades of voices

    I have read the book and the writing was horrible. After seeing the movie I found I liked it better. Maybe because of the lack of suffering such a badly written book. I couldn’t even continue reading the second (although I am now considering it).  I did discover one thing that did surprise me. Control.…

  • Still learning the ropes and no not those kind

    Dating when you are single is so much simpler. If you do something it only affects you, and potentially your partner. When you enter the lifestyle, the major difference is that you have to think for yourself along with your partner. Now add another level which is more couples and you can see how it…

  • Vocal freedom

    Funny thing about sex when you are younger.  You either had a screamer or a mute. There really was no middle ground that I recall. Plus not really having a private venue didn’t help either.  So with that said, there were not very many vocal woman that I knew when I grew up.  Thinking about it…

  • Distance – it’s a bitch

    With the couples that we have met over the past few years one thing is in common.  Distance is a factor.  Now we don’t go out to clubs and meet people.  True that can work, but for our selves we don’t work that way.  We have used dating sites and of all things twitter.  The…