Category: Personal Insight

  • One year – how things have changed

    Well after a year I have learned a lot about myself. More from writing and reflecting on myself. Along with discussions with like minded people I think I know more about what I am like. And finding out what I don’t want to become again.  

  • Inner circles

    One thing that I have found interesting is the amount of relationships that you can build in the lifestyle.  The interaction and how everyone knows each other fascinates me.  This also means that there are potentially more risk.  Open communication is so important, more so with multiple partners. Recently had my tests done for STD…

  • NSA

    To be fair I use a lot of different terms to make a black and white statement clearer.  That is because with the lifestyle there are a lot of gray areas as well.  My previous post about Dating & FWB seems to have made a few women comment directly to me.  They had an issue with the…

  • Dating vs FWB

    Interesting question was raised during a conversation this week and it got me thinking.  Dating and Friends with benefit (FWB) are similar and also not at the same time.  Both could be considering the same with the major exception that Dating is more of a commitment.  It could have different degrees of that, compared to…

  • Alcohol friend and foe

    Alcohol is my friend most days.  It helps me relax and be myself.  Normally I hold back and can be cautious.  With alcohol it allows me to become myself.  In some ways this can be good, and in others not so good.  I have always known that when I am drinking my true self comes…

  • Not right now

    One thing that happens is the word “no” . It is not meant as an insult. Or even a rejection. Most times it is situational. Not right time of the month, to fast, or maybe just uncomfortable. There a multitude of reasons for the word to be said. The one factor is that it is…

  • Porn star approved

    Well you wouldn’t know it but I have tried to call into radio shows in the past when younger.  Never got through.  Always got jealous at the people that did, and wondering how my luck can always be that bad.  So when my wife opened up and stated she wanted another cock, and that she…

  • Friends First

    One of the hardest things to find are friends in the lifestyle.  Oh you can meet people and get along but to have that connection on all levels is unique.  Trust and honesty is also another factor.  We have been fortunate and have met two couples that we connected with.  Actually there was another couple…

  • Benefits reduced

    I always let the woman know that benefits are a bonus.  Sure, I wish it can happen more but timing and life is a factor.  The other side of the coin is how relationships change.  Again I have lost benefits from one of my good friends.  It is funny how things happen and even over…

  • Birthday and new friends

    I swear the birthdays just don’t seem to end. Since March it seems someone always has a birth around the corner. This time it is Lexxi’s turn and Bob had made arrangements for some of their friends to come over to celebrate it. Krystalla informed me that they were friends they have met through different…