It has been a long time since I have posted something new. Well new in the sense on what has transpired over the past few years. Well more like 4 years based on some of my postings. Lot of things have changed, and some are the same. The biggest change is relationships and who I am involved with.
When covid hit it was a shock to everyone. We had just got back from Jamaica in January, and within little more then a month the whole world is locked down. For those that have multiple partners, that means relationship are pretty much on hold when it comes to seeing them in person. None at that time were local, so bubbles were not an option. Video calls and texting is how we relied on engagement and connection. Everyone found outlets, some good and some not so good. Mine was xbox every night. Voice and playing games allowed me to handle it. Plus we were fortunate as a family to have a lot of board games that I have picked up over the previous years.
The biggest struggle was the physical contact that was lacking. You don’t realize how much you need this until it is not available. Texting and video calls are fine as a hold over, but when it becomes almost 2 years, it doesn’t replace the in person connection.
This also affected me when it is my birthday. I don’t expect much to be honest being older now. Just good friends and a social event is all I expect. So for the two years it was my 49th and 50th birthday. Needless to say it was very lack luster for my 49th. My 50th they had another full lockdown, and as disappointed as I was on they day of my birthday, they did a half birthday for me with friends that were available. It was best under the circumstances, covid still had some rules in place, and appreciate everyone that was able to attend and for Krystalla arranging it. She knew I was frustrated, and she made the extra effort which is hugely appreciated.
Then it was the relationships. I still have my regular partners that are long distance. I didn’t really have any locals at that time, not that we would be able to see them during covid. What covid did was put a damper on any dating sites. After covid ended (ish) and people started to get out and meet in person, it was near impossible to find anyone to meet. With the fear of covid on everyone’s mind, no one really wanted to meet in person. And we won’t get into the non vaccine issue. I will state that it doesn’t make sense to me but everyone is allowed their opinion.
So as time moves on, and throughout 2021 I was reconnected with an old FWB which was awesome, until I was ghosted in 2022. It hurt to be honest, since I expect open communication and I eventually found out what was going on through another party. Okay I was pissed off really, more so on how it transpired. I am nice guy, and have had many relationships that ended due to them finding their partner and becoming monogamous. To just ghost me cause you don’t want to tell me is insulting.
After covid and restrictions lifted, I was able to see my long time gf with a trip to Dominican Republic near end of 2021. After over 2 years of not seeing each other it was a great way to reconnect over seven days. Only issue was getting home with the mandatory COVID test, but it all worked out in the end. It was an amazing trip, hotel was awesome, and we are thinking of another group trip, although may not be this exact resort in 2024.
I have meet another one as well but as with anything distance is a factor. Additionally the drive in winter would be hellish, so not really the best option currently. I still see my other long time gf that is about an hour and half away, but with family and responsibility it also has become far and in between visits.
Now in 2023, I have two new women. One local, which I am still learning her ways. We also have been busy and scheduling has a been a big challenge. The good news is that we have worked our communication issues out, and things have been a lot better since. Just lack of time seeing each other has been a challenge and she is frustrated on that.
The other new one which has been crushing on me for six years was totally unexpected. By chance it happened at a social event, and fortunately I made a move. Learning that she has been flirting with me for six years really shows I am oblivious to advancements made by women. Guess I need the more direct approach, either tell me or just grab my cock (kidding, or am I).
So that is pretty much high level on everything. I have glossed over a few items, and will probably expand in another post, but this is pretty much it. The covid years has been a challenge, and dating now seems harder then prior to covid. Maybe it is just me, or maybe the women are more picky on who they want to engage with.
I have learned more about myself during covid, and because of that I am pretty clear on what I need. I think everyone self reflected during that period, and hopefully everyone came out stronger. As much as covid was hated, I think it tested relationships that either came out stronger or identified issues that might not have been noticed or talked about. All things consider I am very fortunate with who I have in my life, and wouldn’t change any of it.