Unique can not be forgotten

For past few weeks I have had the good fortune of seeing a few of my fwb.  Timing has actually worked out, although it seems like when it rains it pours.  This week especially has been busy.  The sex has been great as well, but there has been one common factor of late that I am now realizing.

Krystalla, along with Lexxi in some sense, have different tastes.  The levels of pain and how they enjoy sex has been something I have been working on to make sure I please them.  What I didn’t realize that this also can carry over to my other fwb and unlike my wives, they don’t have the same taste.  Primarily this is related to the pain level that each woman can tolerate or enjoy during sex.  Unknown to me I have gotten better at finding that level with my wives, but doesn’t translate well to other women.

Now don’t get me wrong, I don’t enjoy providing any woman with pain to a degree.  That is the primary reason why BDSM is not something that I can do.  At least not to the degree that Kyrstalla wants.  I did work on her one night using wax and ice, and it was hot.  Normally the women are blinded folded but I don’t do normal.  Don’t listen very well to their demands all the time either.  So I tried something different with her, and it was very erotic.  I never got hard during this whole thing, but she was on fire by the time we finished.  We went to bed after the event and she basically jumped me.  It was amazing how this got her engine going to mach 1 by doing this simple foreplay.

Wouldn’t be doing this all the time, heck I had tried to do this for a few days but timing just didn’t happen the way I wanted.  I really have to be in the mood for it, I can’t just flip a switch and do it.  My mind, much like the woman’s, has to be wanting to do it.  If either of our minds are not in the right space it won’t have the same effect.  That is the challenge, along with having the kids not around since I really don’t want to explain this to them at this time.

So with Kyrstalla there are really no boundaries on what level can be applied to her.  Of course there are somethings she won’t do, but luckily I won’t have to worry about that since at this point I very limited to what I am willing to do.  What I do know is that her pain tolerance is very high, and because of that I am now realizing that my translation of how I interact with her is being carried over to other women.  This is where problems can arise, and why I am now realizing I almost need a play book for each of my fwb.

No I don’t mean how to get them into bed, although that is not to far from the truth when you don’t have a spot that is always available.  More that I need to ensure I have the limits for the women understood so I don’t go past them.  This happened for one of my good fwb, and as much I as I apologized for what happened that one night, it made me realized that I need to ensure I keep things within the parameters that they enjoy.  Communication is so important and I am extremely grateful that she came forward and clarified what she didn’t like and liked.  We had sex soon after and it was way different from the last time and she enjoyed herself so much more.

Having a few women who I want to please, and they start to blend together, behaving the same with each of them.  This is not always wrong, but it is something that you have to be mindful of.  It has been brought up before with our wives on the differences, but it really became clear over the past week or so with my other fwb.  Each woman is unique and needs to be treated differently.  Of course you are thinking “Well that is obvious,” and you are correct to a degree.  Personality wise they are unique, but physically they still have two boobs and one clit.  Those factors don’t change, along with kissing, each one has to be stimulated differently between women and that becomes the challenge.  It is one thing to have a new girl and explore, but with the existing ones you need to remember how you explored originally in the first place.  Taking advantage of them and not remembering can make for an awkward and possible painful experience.  No one wants that.

Now the other side of the coin are the women that find that they enjoy it and want to explore more.  This leaves me at a disadvantage as well since I am not really able to do much more than what I have done so far.  This is why Krystalla has two DOMS, to allow her to get that side itched, something that I really can’t do.  Sure I could attempt it, but as I have discovered I really don’t get off on it.  It doesn’t please more or turn me on, and both of my wives have said do not do it if it doesn’t benefit you as well.  Fair enough, but it leaves a hole that I can’t fill for some women.  Yes bad pun, but it is true, there is a part that I can’t fill. (I know I couldn’t resist this one either ;:)

This leave me with a simple factor.  Know the women you are with.  Sure you explore with the new ones (which has been a long time for me now that I think about it), but remember how each one likes to be pleased.  Ensure you do not cross that line unless asked.  The awkward discussion that happened this past week could have been avoided if I was more aware.  I still feel bad about it, and even though it is now water under the bridge, I am for the better.  This key point has made me understand myself more and because of that I think I will be even better in the bed I share with the few women that I see.  For that I am grateful that we all communicate because without it there could have been drama or worse I might have lost a good friend.