No mind control here

Women have always states that the man has to brains.  Well two parts that think, head and cock.  The one can’t control the other and with age this becomes more apparent than ever.

I have covered the limp uncooperative cock a few times in the past.  A close friend has brought point up to me and I thought it was due to be discussed again.  I have had experience with this and it took almost a year to get back to normal.  With the past few years I have learned more about it, in the sense on why and worked through some possible solutions to it.  To begin is the reason.  Well once this little doubt creeps into your mind it becomes the hardest thing to get rid of.

When I first started this adventure I was losing weight.  Actually a lot of weight very fast.  Made Krystalla sick that I was able to drop so much weight so quickly.  This also had an additional side effect.  Testosterone sits in the fat cells, so my level of horniess was off the charts.  I could touch my wife and the cock would jump wide awake.  Within a few months things settle down.  It is also when I had first play date, in a car, in daylight.  Needless to say it was not the best possible conditions.  It also caused my cock to be shy.  I have had it happen before on occasion with Krystalla but this was something different.  New girl, naked and horny and my limp cock is pointing to the floor in shame.  Somehow I managed to get it stiff enough to have sex, but it was not the experience I wanted to provide to the woman.

Over the next few encounters with other women this happened.  It was there once and then it wasn’t.  As I mentioned it had a mind of its own.  It didn’t want to be on the same page as me, and it was very frustrating as to why it was not wanting to enjoy the girls that I met.  Hell having a hot horny woman dripping wet and your cock is looking at the floor almost shaking its head “no”.  Embarrassing and frustrating.  This is also when we started seeing couples, so the added new experience of group play and well it was like a perfect storm.

I have to say only a few women pointed out the problem.  All the couples that we were with then didn’t make any point of it.  Looking back I appreciate what they did for me.  Not asking why, basically ignoring the fact that it was not there to participate.  I still used my tongue, fingers and mouth but to let the woman get away without not burying my cock into them is as like fishing and catching one on your line and then it jumpst off the hook and swims away.  Maddening.

So over the past few years I have worked to try to minimize this setback.  Even went to the doctor and asked for assistance.  Tried Viagra, which works but requires planning since you need to take the pill half an hour before sex.  Not something easily done when you are in a group environment or party.  And no, you don’t sprout a hard on after you take it, you still need stimulation.  It did help with the confidence to a degree, and to be fair also helped in group play.  Main reason I vetoed any play at the clubs back then is for two reasons, me staying in control and the other to eliminate any chance of limp cock if some girl was spread eagle asking me to fuck her.  It would have been embarrassing.  And in a club environment I didn’t want that to happen.

So how has things changed.  Well for one is that I am not worried as much about it.  Of course I still have that little voice in the back of my head asking if it is hard?  Will it get hard?  And will it stay hard?  This will never go away as much as I wish it would.  The main issue is that you have to get past is the fact that age is a bitch.  Body will not always be on the same page as what is happening around you.  Deal with it.  And as hard as it sounds (no pun intended) it will take time.  Let me remind you of something.  When you as a guy were younger did you have to think about getting hard?  Of course not, it happened, more often when you didn’t want to sprout one.  This doesn’t change as you get older.  You can’t force it to happen.  And if you think you can you are basically cock blocking it.

The body and mind needs the stimulation that it does to get the blood flowing, including to your cock.  If  you eliminate those then you are breaking the process and causing a chance it won’t wake up.  As I stated, we basically have two brains, with one we have no direct control over.  Heck even cumming we do not control, at least most men don’t.  It always seems to sneak up on us and then BAM it happens.  So get it out of your mind that you can control it.  Remember those morning hard-ons when you have to take a pee.  Standing at the toilet wish it would go down since your bladder is about to explode?  Did it work then?  Nope, it did its own thing.  Surprising how one muscle is something we have no direct control over.

As I touched on above you can get prescriptions to help it along.  This is not a solution but a way to give you a crutch and get confidence back.  I have sampled them and yes they can work and help you can get back to the point you don’t need them.  You don’t want to rely on a crutch since I guarantee there will be one night with a smoking hot chick and no drugs around.  It will take time but if you can don’t rely on them for everything.  Dependency on it will cause other complications.

Now to be fair, I have other issues and have seen a specialist for advice.  I will write-up another blog entry about what I have been dealing with and what was provided as a solution at a later date (and no I don’t know when).  My point in this discussion is that in no way can you force your cock to get hard.  So stop trying.  Take a deep breath, and take a break.  Talk about anything.  Relax.  And then do a lot of foreplay.  Don’t even think about if your cock is going to work.  Think about pleasing the woman with your mouth, hands, fingers or whatever toys you have available.  Don’t think about fucking her but think about making her cum.  I have to say as silly as it sounds, if you take sex off the table in your mind you might be surprised on what pops up during the foreplay.