Meet and Greet Dash

The hardest part with the lifestyle is finding people.  The second hardest part is the meet and greet.  The usual discussions is simple questions .  Also depends on the couple since everyone is different.  The rules that each couple have are varied and may not always line up with what your rules are.  This is why the communication is so important in understanding what both couples are looking for.  Something that we learned when we had our first meet with a new swingers couple.

This was a bit different than later ones since we were new to this.  The couple that we met was also new so it was a learning experience for all of us.  We talk a bit through the website and agreed to meet. Since we had the kids and we couldn’t leave them home alone we offered our house.  Now some of you might think that this is crazy but we only plan to meet and have drinks.  We have lots of friends who come over, so there is no risk in this happening since the kids know we have friends.  We planned to meet a week or so later and chatted a bit leading up to the date. She was attractive with a full body but sexy in her own way. Her husband seem cool and honestly, I can’t recall if he was attractive. Drinks started to flow and we started to discuss the lifestyle. Discussing the lifestyle, how successful they have been, and what we all were looking for.  This is where we found out something that we should have discussed before we met up.

We didn’t discuss our limits or preferences.  Not that you need to spell out every little detail but there is some things you need to qualify before meeting.  My wife is not bi, neither am I, but the woman play was very important to this couple.  She was bi and wanted this experience.  It is one thing that should have come up in conversation but there were assumptions made.  I have also noticed online dating sites show a high amount of bi or bi curious woman.  This surprised me but also shows on some level why swingers actually swing.  Besides the sex they also want to have the fantasies.  Woman play is usually high on most list for men.  They enjoy watching two woman intertwine together with mouth and hands exploring.  Not for me since I prefer to be involved but for others they love to watch.

In this case it was a deal breaker. They didn’t say this during our chatting but the way they almost ran out of the house I was a little insulted.  Lesson learned is that before any meeting make sure you cover what is expected if things lead to play. Everyone must be on the same page. Of course each encounter is different but a clear understanding of limits must be communicated.  Something we learned very quickly after this date and something that we clearly communicate before any meeting after that.  We also learned later on that having a meet and greet can quickly escalate to other things happening, but that story I will tell later.