Choke surprise

Choking I only do in my jiu jitsu class.  I know to perform lots of different types.  Rear naked, head in arm, and the famous guillotine to name a few.  I would never it do it for pleasure which is why I was caught of guard hearing my wife was choked during sex this past weekend.  In the past few years she has explored and discovered fetishes that for me is not something that I can easily perform.

Over the past year Krystalla has had her fetishes explored, and found out that she really loves the side of pain during sex.  I am happy she has found this although it puts me in an awkward spot.  What I mean by this is that there are times that I feel I am not adequate for her.  Not able to do the things that she wants, even though she has another partner that can, makes me feel that I can’t satisfy her.  Oh I can make her cum during sex and orally as well.  I also have tried light bondage with her, although it is not to the degree that her partner does.  For me I am trying to learn but it will take time.  Also have to see what I like and tolerate within her fetishes.

Now what surprised me is that I do have my own way, which is verbal.  After the revelation I stated above both my wife and gf talked to me independently after they saw my reaction when she mentioned the choking.  Both of them understood that it was not me, but that I do have power over them with my voice.  Actually more power then I thought from how they described it.  They have told me this before, but I really didn’t know how powerful it is until they explained a bit more since they wanted to ensure that I may not do the pain side but I do have the voice that is just as effective.

Thinking back I have directed with my voice when I was younger.  My first long term girlfriend I did it a lot actually.  Didn’t think about that until my wives brought it up.  Over the years I used it to different degrees, but more with long term relationships.  Any of the short term ones really didn’t explore outside of just making each other satisfied.  When I got married Krystalla was still shy and inexperienced.  Sex was, in some sense, an act that she felt she had to do.  She had fun, but she really didn’t know how to have fun, not till she relaxed and starting get the confidence.  Majority of what I did in the bedroom back then was toned down, to meet her level.  I even turned some things off since before I met her I was a bit of “fuck anything that moved,” kind of guy.  That included vocal commands.  It was just simple sex with her back then.  Now it is hard for her to keep quiet, craving sex all the time, and pushing me to explore new areas.

The other factor is that when we started this journey, we actually discussed all our fantasies and fetishes.  What is weird is that I didn’t have that many, which even surprised me, and pretty much all of them have been done over past few years.  I am starting to think of new ones, which might surprise a few people, including my wives after they read this.  They are more scenarios, which I think would be easier if wrote them out in erotic format?  Do you agree?  Let me know in the coments.

Oh and to the wives and fwb, you can ask all you want, but I won`t tell you.  They are scernarios, situations that could happen and not something like threesome, 5 uhah or other simple statements.  More like the short story about the coffee and blow job I wrote.