Category: Personal Insight

  • The good and the bad

    The hardest part in the lifestyle is how things evolve. My wife found BDSM with our poly couple. I never would have thought this would be something she is interested in.  Nor something I can do myself. Sure I have dabbled when I was younger with control.  Voice and maybe holding a girls hands down. …

  • Etre Voyeur a un club

    The music hits you like a wave as we came through the doors into the club. Familiar beat but not knowing the song, we make our way up the stairs to register. Once we all register and checked our coats we move to the dance floor were the girls start to shake their asses. Glancing…

  • Damn whiskey

    I said low key this weekend because of the kids.  Well I might have made a miscalculation on that.  Seems I lost count on my drinks last night. And then the spins and not walking straight.  It was not a long drive to see our quad. No issues and only a few idiots.  I think…

  • Cumming Weeks

    I rarely just talk about my life on here.  Ya I know I talk about the sex, couples, fwb and adventures but I don’t actually just talk.  Since I have gotten back from Chicago the past few weeks have been very hard on me.  Primarily mostly related to work but there other factors as well.…

  • BDSM test – how accurate?

    I have no idea how this came up, or where the quad found this but there is a test to see how kinky you are. Since they all did it, well I had to see how I fit onto the scale. Surprisingly, there was not really anything to surprising about the results for myself.

  • What is a slut?

    It is funny how old habits come back to us from our younger days. For the nth time in the past few weeks I have heard the word slut used in conversation. This is something that never bothered me, although male slut is not common to hear. And honestly, I never thought any different of…

  • Dr Sweets in the house

    Dr Sweets in the house

    This has also carried over into my personal life, more on the relationships that I have built. Each new girl that I meet seems to have something that they want to talk about. What they don’t know is that I am extremely good at getting people to talk about anything!

  • Exposing my inner thoughts on the dark side

    Unknown to me when I was younger, I was dominate when having sex.  I would direct and control the woman with my voice.  Fast forward to now and it something that I am struggling with.  Not the verbal part, that is coming back in stages since I turned it off when I married my wife.…

  • Balance, it is not that easy

    This year will be an interesting one.  Hopefully with change.  Personally I am looking to move out of my role, along with trying to find my wife a new job.  Both have taken a toll since it has been an up hill battle, with one step forward and about five back.  Along with that I am…

  • All nice guys…

    Recently it was stated to me that “All than nice guys must be polygamous.” I paused for a second and thought about that statement. The lifestyle commands respect, since everyone is there to have fun with no pressure and drama.