Category: Personal Insight

  • Respect is expected by the woman

    For those of you that know me I am a very respectful and patient man.  I always respect the woman’s wishes and because of that I have usually missed golden opportunities.  This was not always the case when I was younger, and just after my college years I went through a selfish phase.  Mostly because…

  • Intimacy

    Many people don’t understand the lifestyle, or at least find it hard to grasp.  The main hangup is the sex act.  How can you fuck someone else and not love them?  Or how can you let your spouse go and fuck someone else, don’t you love them?  I think what everyone is working through is…

  • Alone with my thoughts

    So my first week away from my family.  It has been a bit weird.  No data connection has made me squirrely the first day with my friends not able to chat.  After a few days we sorted it out with the evenings being a bit hard since I worked so late every night.  Think the…

  • Boost – Part 4

    Fumbling in getting my jacket off I search for a condom.  I usually have one in my jacket for the ‘just in case’ scenario.  Never thought that I would use it with a chance encounter like this thought.  Then again having a woman hit on me, then pick me up, and now leading to what is…

  • Year in Review – By the numbers

    Well I have reviewed my stats for the year and there really is not to many surprises.  I will try to be more regular on my posts, since it was kind of hit and miss when I did write. For all of you that have read my blog thank you.  I appreciate that you take…

  • Culture Shock

    What I have seen in the past few months, and over the couple of years swinging, is that different cultures have different opinions on relationships. When we first started swinging we ran into our first couple that appeared to have the culture impact the dynamics.

  • NYE and the cumming year

    NYE and the cumming year

    Another year has come and past. The highs and lows of the past year has been extreme, with many changes to everyone that I have been involved with. Medical, family, personal and just about any other issue has been felt by all. If you told me three years ago that I would be leading a…

  • Reflection of four different needs

    Reflection of four different needs

    Our quad has settled into a relationship that has become more like married. It has almost been two years since we met and things have evolved dramatically. This past year has been an eye opener for all of us. Needs and desires for each person is different. Nothing wrong with that at all unless they…

  • Weekend has been a blur

    My wife’s vanilla gf was over this weekend, which was exciting.  She knows about our lifestyle and I enjoy seeing how far I can push the context of sex.  She is a bit of a prude so it is fun to see reactions from her.  Although I didn’t have much time visit on Saturday evening…

  • Choke surprise

    Choke surprise

    Choking I only do in my jiu jitsu class. I know to perform lots of different types. Rear naked, head in arm, and the famous guillotine to name a few. I would never it do it for pleasure which is why I was caught of guard hearing my wife was choked during sex this past…