Tag: swinging

  • Don’t ask if you don’t want the answer

    Okay this has been brewing for a while now and I really have to get this off my chest. Well that and the 6th drink has made me a little drunk. We selectively tell people who we can trust in handling that we are swingers in open marriage. Reason why is that people can behave…

  • Vanilla is plain, boring and needs a pick me up

    It was the first party that I went to after we opened up that I realized how boring vanilla is.  To be clear, anyone that is not in the lifestyle is vanilla.  Now don’t get me wrong, some of our friends who are vanilla know about us and the lifestyle.  The issue is more when…

  • The Bet – Day 6

    This is a continuation of a story.  This is based on true events.  It is based on a couple of different peoples points of view so I have labelled who is from when the view point changes.  I hope you enjoy it.   Day 6 Jane The three hour drive to see Michelle and Dave is…

  • The work place and sex is complicated

    Having been in in the lifestyle for two and half years and still going does not make me an expert.  We have learnt a lot from our mistakes and miscommunication.  Since some of my friends confide in me it has exposed me to questions that are raised.  The one question that came up recently, and also…

  • Dating for two or more

    As you can see the word communicate is clearly mentioned numerous times. Without this the couple will not survive the lifestyle, let along could risk their marriage. Not telling you partner what you are feeling or thinking runs the risk of assumptions being made. Before we opened up we had a routine, and with that…

  • Hear ye Hear ye – We are in the Lifestyle

    We noticed this as a point of concern when we had a party recently with a mixture of vanilla and lifestyle friends together. One of the vanilla couples had some reservations. More the husband since when most people hear about the lifestyle they think we just get into a room, all cloths come off and…

  • Hey wanna go out, my wife doesn’t mind?

    Since we have opened up our marriage it has been humorous in some of the things that we took for granted when we were younger.  There was no internet so you had to meet people the old fashion way.  You had to actually talk to them in person.  I know how strange is that?  But seriously,…

  • Tied up in my search for meaning

    Discovering yourself is an interesting challenge.  You don’t know what it is you are looking for until you come across it.  Like most things you usually are introuduced to something new.  This has been my experience for the past few years.  As to what I have tried, well, I will try almost anything once, twice…

  • Dicks in a room

    When I was younger I frequented the local strip clubs.  Grand illusions that maybe one them hot chicks would take an interest in me beyond just making a few dollars.  Of course it never happened and you always come out poorer.  One thing that I did notice one night in a club which didn’t make…

  • Couples – Boobs, Hands, Cocks… Oh My!

    Twitter chatter has brought me back to my first group experience.  For my first with more then two couples since it is a very different dynamic since it is not just a swap.  It was a very unique and surprising experience since it was not actually planned to happen the way it did.  Let me explain.