Vanilla is plain, boring and needs a pick me up

It was the first party that I went to after we opened up that I realized how boring vanilla is.  To be clear, anyone that is not in the lifestyle is vanilla.  Now don’t get me wrong, some of our friends who are vanilla know about us and the lifestyle.  The issue is more when you are in a group of people and no one knows. Continue reading Vanilla is plain, boring and needs a pick me up

The Bet – Day 6

This is a continuation of a story.  This is based on true events.  It is based on a couple of different peoples points of view so I have labelled who is from when the view point changes.  I hope you enjoy it.


Day 6


The three hour drive to see Michelle and Dave is torturous. Not only because they can see where we are on the highway with an app on our phones, but because he has been teasing me the whole way down. My panties are soaked and my mind is floating as I try to stay focused and in control. Trevor and I didn’t make any contact this morning in trying to keep to the bet. This only made my pussy throb harder, wanting a hard cock in it so bad. The urge to stay in control is unbearable. I have no idea on how I am going to control myself when we arrive.

This whole week has been exhilarating. The sensation of not being allowed to cum has put all my senses on overdrive with little effort in making me gush from my pussy. Not to mention the attention from Trevor. He has been like an animal, prodding and poking me with his tongue, fingers and cock. He seems to know which buttons to push to make it come as close to the edge as possible and then pull back. Over and over again,all week, he did this to me which has driven me to what is now a constant high.

We are only about half an hour away when we stop at the rest stop to get some food and bathroom break. I need to pee in a very bad way and also dry myself off. My pussy is soaked. The constant thoughts running through my head and the teasing from Dave is not helping and my panties are drenched. Ah well, they won’t be on long once we get there anyways.


“You made it, “ exclaims Michelle as she gives Jane a big hug and then turns to me. “Hey sexy.”

“Hey you, you’re looking damn fine,” as I pull her in and give her a kiss. Our tongues search briefly for each other, just enough to stir my cock from slumber.

I glance over and see Dave and Jane in an embrace as well, kissing deeply. I wonder how he is doing through all of this.

“Drink? “ asks Michelle and I nod in agreement.

“Please, the drive was not that bad but I sure could handle one right now.”

“And what would you like?”

Pondering for a second or two I respond, “Rye is good.”

With a giggle, “Oh we have lots of that here,” as Michelle starts to move around the kitchen and make me a drink. “Jane, for yourself?”

As Jane discusses what she wants to drink I take our bags and navigate down to our room and put them down. Thinking back to our first time here I remember having Michelle on the bed on all fours as I pound my cock into her from behind. My cock gets harder with the thought and I turn around to get my drink from the kitchen.

It doesn’t take long till the conversation turns to the bet. Everyone is chiming in with their thoughts and pain from the week. Dave’s saving grace was that he worked nights so the limited time that he saw Michelle helped in keeping him from popping. Michelle has been going crazy and her lust for satisfaction is probably as high as Jane’s.

I pipe up, “So with no one giving in to the bet,” I look over at both Dave and Jane, “how are we going to settle the tie breaker?”

Silence fills the room as everyone looks at each other, pondering on what the objective would be to have the bet decided. “I would think that the first person to cum would be the loser, but since you two came up with this bet… “

Michelle curses, “Stupid bet.”

I continue, “I think it is only fair that Michelle and myself should decide on how it should be decided?”

Michelle is nodding in agreement and both Dave and Jane are looking worried now, knowing that we could come up with some very cruel means of making them decide.

“Can’t we just say it was a tie and be done with it?” Jane says as she slides over to me and gives me a kiss on the lips. “I mean, we have done what was asked, go without cumming until today. I think it is only fair that we are both claimed winners, right Dave?” She glances over at him and gives him a sultry smile.

“Yep, I think that is right. We both won this.“ As he looks over at Jane he adds, “but I know I would have outlasted you.” He winks to seal that deal with the statement.

“Oh no you wouldn’t!“ I roll my eyes with Jane’s last comment.

“Seriously,“ I say and then before I could react I hear in chorus, “ Really? Seriously? Blah Blah Blah…”

We all start to laugh and then have another sip of our drinks as we move outside to discuss further on what will be the tie breaker.


My cock is sliding easily in out of Michelle, she is straddling me in the hot tub as she looks into my eyes with lust. “Damn it feels so good. I waited all week to feel you riding my cock again.”

Not stopping, she kisses me deeply and whispers into my ear, “This week has been torture. I so am going to fuck your brains out tonight. I have been wanting a hard cock in me all week and with this bet I have been going crazy.” She starts to pump harder up and down on my cock and I can see she is starting to get close to cumming. I shift my hips a bit and start to match her thrusts and can feel my cock burying deep inside with each thrust.

I look over and see Jane riding Dave, whimpering and groaning with each thrust. The bet was over and we can all get our fill of pussy and cock now. Damn she is so sexy as she rides his cock. I focus back on Michelle and can see her start to tremble and a groan escapes her lips. I start to thrust harder. Deeper. Wanting her to cum. Something she has wanted all week but has not been able to get.

She groans louder and louder and she pulls in close to me as I wrap my hands around her and feel her getting closer and closer. I hold on to her and let her finish. She squeals and starts to shake as her first orgasm hits. Holding onto me for support as her tremors take over her body. Damn I love making women cum, I think as I smile to myself.

She leans over and kisses me on the lips, “I so needed that.”

“I know,” as I smile back at her. “I just need to make you cum a few more times to make up for the week.

“Jesus, “ she exclaims and giggles.



His cock feels so damn good. Grinding my hips into Dave I feel it thrust deeper inside me. With a slight shift I can make it hit my…. oh yes right there. I groan out loud as the attention to my gspot is finally achieved.

“So we agree. We cum together and the bet is a tie?” I whisper to him.

“Yes, we are both winners this time, “ he smiles back. “But next time be prepared to lose.”

Speeding up slightly, “Smart ass,” I shoot back at him as I feel him start to thrust up into me. “Oh right there,” I groan out loud as I feel it building up. All the tension and frustration from the week is building up to this moment. Not cumming has made me hypersensitive and the sensations that I am feeling is making me somewhat light headed.

Grinding my hips faster, I want to make him cum, and myself as well. With each thrust it is building more and more. I can feel him tensing up as well. He is getting close. I kiss him deeply as I continue to speed up some more. The water is foaming and bubbling around us and I hear Michelle starting to groan and whimper behind me.

That turns me on even more knowing that Trevor is giving his cock to Michelle. Making her cum with his cock as I start to tense up, feeling my gspot getting the much needed attention it deserves as Dave’s cock thrusts into it each time our hips meet. Harder. Faster. My mind is reeling as I feel Dave getting closer and closer.

“I am going to cum,” I whisper through my groans. “Oh right there…”

Dave stops and looks into my eyes, “Not here.”

I groan and pout and lean down to him, “Why?”

“Because I don’t want to have to drain and clean the hot tub if I cum. We said we would together, can’t do it here.”

Sighing I pout, “Okay, where then?”

Slipping off his cock, I sit down beside him, the jet pulsating onto my back although wishing it was my pussy. He slowly stands up and takes my hand, “oh we will find a place.”

Leading me out of the hot tub and grabbing a towel for both of us we quickly dry off and then put on our robes so that we could be covered up going into the house. Glancing back I see Trevor and Michelle embrace as she is coming down from her orgasm. Smiling at Trevor I see that he glances over at me and smiles back. He leans into her ear and whispers something and she looks up.

“We are going inside, you guys want to join us,” I say with a gleam in my eye as we have not really had a chance to have all four of us playing together at the same time yet.

“Sure,” Michelle pipes up and moves to get out of the hot tub. Trevor just smiles and follows behind her.

Heading inside, I don’t see Dave around and glance downstairs and then hear the toilet flush from the bathroom. As we move downstairs, I discard the robe near the chair and sit down on the couch. Pussy is soaked, not from the hot tub but from the thought of finally getting a release. Dave shows up from the bathroom and smiles. “Are they coming in?”

“Yep, “ as I hear the door open and their voices quietly talking to each other. Looking back at Dave he is moving towards the couch and sits down beside me, he wraps his arms around me and pulls me in close to his warm body. I can feel his hard cock pressing into my back and wish it was back inside me again. I so need to cum.

Our spouses come downstairs and Michelle heads to the bathroom as Trevor sits down on the couch. Looking at me he glances down and sees my glistening pussy covered in my juices. Smiling he moves in closer and kisses me. Kissing back, our tongues search for each other as I feel Dave kissing the back of my neck. My pussy almost gushes. I have never experienced two men touching me at the same time.

I feel hands squeezing my tits and another hand sliding down to my pussy rubbing my clit. My mind is overwhelmed and I kiss Trevor harder and deeper as I start to moan. Trevor pulls away from my mouth and moves down to my nipples and sucks really hard, using teeth and nibbling away on it. Letting out a loud groan as I feel two fingers sliding to my gushing pussy. My hips begin to gyrate wanting more than fingers, but a hard cock. Half opening my eyes, I see Michelle looking down at us her eyes filled with lust.

She leans over and starts to kiss Trevors neck. He stops his attention to my tits and sits up as she continues to kiss and rub his chest with her hands. Feeling my pussy starting to ache for more than just fingers I sit up slightly and turn towards Dave. I want him, his cock and my orgasm and I can’t wait any longer.

“Fuck me,” I state to him, “Fuck me now!”

Dave doesn’t hesitate as he gently pushes me down and I end up with my head in Trevor’s lap. Trevor shifts a bit so that his cock is beside my face. I tilt my head and take it in my mouth, as Trevor lets out a groan. I feel hands roaming my body and my nipples being squeezed and I open my eyes to see Michelle looking down at me as her hands work my nipples.

My pussy fills with cock as Dave slides into me and starts to pump hard and deep. Sucking on Trevor’s cock I feel my nipples being sucked as Michelle teases them between her teeth. I arch my back and can feel my body getting close. I have never been this stimulated, so much at once, my mind is reeling. My body is on fire as my orgasm is building at a rapid pace.

Trevor’s cock falls out of my mouth as I start to groan with each thrust, my hips arching up into Dave trying to get it deeper. My pussy is on fire after being neglected for the whole week not being able to cum. Suddenly Dave pulls out and I look up at him with a, “What the fuck,” as I see Michelle move her mouth down to my pussy.

“Can I,” I hear her ask between kisses as she slowly moves down my body towards my pussy.

My mind is reeling from all this attention and I can barely let out, “Yes.”

Her tongue traces my soaked pussy lips and then starts to work on my clit. My eyes close again as I feel the regular tingling in my pussy from the attention. I reach for Trevor’s cock again and pull it into my mouth. Taking it all as deep as I can take it, I start to suck him hard and fast. The fire building in my pussy is growing at a rapid pace and my mind is reeling. His cock slips out of my mouth as he gasps and I groan from what Michelle is doing to my pussy.

Glancing down, I see Michelle working her magic on my pussy as Dave slides in behind her and starts to fuck her from behind. The scene is so erotic and my my mind goes numb with the sensations. I am so close to cumming from the attention on my pussy, I realize that I had stopped sucking Trevor’s cock. My lips wrap around his cock again as I try to focus on his cock. Sucking the tip of his cock and letting out moans from the fire between my legs I feel the walls coming down. The wave building to an eruption as I hear Dave getting close.
My body tenses up and releases its week long frustration as I explode into a mind numbing orgasm. A brief shattering of stars clouds my vision as I quiver with aftershocks and arch my back. Dave moans and collapses onto Michelle’s back, breathing hard from his release. The room is eerily quiet for a few seconds as I look up at Trevor. His cock dripping with precum and pointing directly at my face. He is smiling down at me as he leans down and kisses me gently on the lips and then moves towards Michelle. She has lifted her face up to see him, juices coating her face from my orgasm. Dave slips out of her and falls onto the couch beside me as Trevor takes up position behind Michelle.

His cock slips easily into her and he begins to pound her hard, continuing where Dave left off. I nuzzle into Dave on the couch as his arms wrap around me. His breathing has slowed down now and he is running his hands through my hair. Both of us focusing on watching our spouses fuck the shit out of each other as they have been pent up this week as much as we have been.

“So what was the bet if we one of us loses again?”, I ask.

“Guess we will have to do it again to find out?”, he replies.

I look up at Dave with a twinkle in my eye, “I won’t EVER do that bet again.”

He chuckles, “Really? Guess we shall see.” He leans down and kisses me gently as I hear Trevor and Michelle cumming very loudly and my mind fades quickly back to the hand slowly sliding down between my legs.

“Well after this week, I plan to make up for it tonight.” My hand reaches for his cock and slowly strokes it.

“So do I,” he whispers as he kisses me deeply on the lips, “So do I.”

The work place and sex is complicated

Having been in in the lifestyle for two and half years and still going does not make me an expert.  We have learnt a lot from our mistakes and miscommunication.  Since some of my friends confide in me it has exposed me to questions that are raised.  The one question that came up recently, and also has me concerned as well, is the workplace.  I am aware of a few friends who have temptation, including myself, and the fear is on multiple levels on how to proceed if pursuing someone in the workplace.

Let me be clear that I have no degree in any of this so this is my opinion.  With that said I think there are a few points to consider in regard to the workplace and the risks/rewards associated with having some outside of work fun.  Keep in mind this discussion leans more to the open marriage side but can relate if you are single as well. Continue reading The work place and sex is complicated

Dating for two or more

One very important factor you realize while in the lifestyle is that when you are married you are now dating for two.  What I mean by this is that when you were younger and single you didn’t worry about anyone else but yourself.  If you had a lucky break you would just go out and meet the person at your convenience.  You didn’t have any responsibility except to yourself.

Now being married you have to communicate everything.   Everything involves the two of you and because of this it makes things more complicated in the dating world.  When doing the swinging lifestyle it is not as bad, although meeting a compatible couple is not easy either.  When trying to find singles, well then it becomes almost near impossible.  This also means that if the person you are interested in is not liked by your partner then the likely hood of the relationship continuing is unlikely. Continue reading Dating for two or more

Hear ye Hear ye – We are in the Lifestyle

Coming out with friends in the lifestyle is one thing that we have been very careful on how we approach it.  Majority of our friends would probably not fully understand our decision.  Mainly because of their beliefs or personalities.  Not to say that we wouldn’t tell if them if they asked, but we choose when and who should know.  Currently there are probably a handful of my friends that know and a few of my wife’s friends. Continue reading Hear ye Hear ye – We are in the Lifestyle

Hey wanna go out, my wife doesn’t mind?


Since we have opened up our marriage it has been humorous in some of the things that we took for granted when we were younger.  There was no internet so you had to meet people the old fashion way.  You had to actually talk to them in person.  I know how strange is that?  But seriously, the internet has brought in a whole new way to connect with other people.  This also includes finding new friends that might become more.

I have a few twitter friends that if we were closer I suspect we would have mutual benefits.  What has been nice about twitter is that you can actually interact with them.  Of course you will get the weirdos, the ignorant or god complex ones but you can at least easily see this within a few interactions.  Fortunately for me I have not had to deal many “unique” people on twitter.  I have a close group that we seem to regularly check in with.  To me this is my other family, my twitter family, since they know my lifestyle and understand and accept it.

So back to reality, since we do actually meet people at times in person that maybe you want to pursue.  For me there is one girl that  have been talking to and want to get to know more.  Problem is that for one I just can’t blurt out that I am interested.  She knows I am married with kids.  Secondly there is a few years difference in age, not that it bothers me but to her it might seem like I am old perverted man.

Jokingly with my wife we have discussed this dilemma in the past.  How do you tell someone you are interested but that it is okay my partner is good with it?  Not like you have a certificate/license that says “YOU ARE FREE TO FUCK WHOMEVER YOU WANT”.  Or “Here is my phone you can call her to confirm.”  Maybe have a t-shirt that says “I am available – wife gave me a  hall pass”.

There is no easy way to say or even prove it.  I do want to be honest and upfront with whomever I am dealing with.  To most whom I have told, including my ex-girl friend, they were shocked.  Even more shocked when I told my ex that wife didn’t mind if we hooked up again.  She actually texted her to confirm that it was okay.  I appreciate that she can do this since we both have a standing relationship with her but if you meet someone new I don’t see that same solution would apply.

So how have I told friends or people I met?  Normally it is the conscious effort of being busy on the phone.  Texting and chatting regularly.  Yes it may seem rude but it will force a conversation to happen that is if you want it to happen.  Other times we have just advised the friend on what is happening.  Surprisingly have had one friend said “I thought you have been doing this for years already.”  Good to know that I am sex fiend.  I told a few of the woman that we were drinking with when I was on a conference about a year go that I was in open relationship.  How I told them?  My phone kept going off and they asked who it was.  Told them it was my girlfriend.  They then started asking questions about the lifestyle.

There is no easy way to approach someone and start up a conversation, and then midway through mention that you are married but allowed to explore on your own.  Most woman, I would think, would react badly to it.  To me if I heard that I would think it was a lie unless I can confirm that.  Which is the problem since I doubt a stranger is going to be able to validate the claim easily.  Not like your spouse is your wingman (or maybe she is, you are a lucky one 😉 ) so they couldn’t just ask in person.

So how do you come out, be honest, and not offend or scare the potential new friend away?  That is a question that I do not see an easy answer too.  Everyone is different both in how they approach it and the situation.  If you are lucky maybe you have found an easier way to do it.  For me I am going to have to rely on patience and wait for the right time to bring it up.

For those of you out there what has been your dating experience in the lifestyle?  How did you approach new people that are unsure if they were in lifestyle?  Have you had any non swingers find out and then want to explore (or as I have been told converted them)?  And for the ladies what has been the worst pick-up line that you heard?  And please think of this as person to person and not online.  Leave your thoughts in the comments below.

Tied up in my search for meaning

Discovering yourself is an interesting challenge.  You don’t know what it is you are looking for until you come across it.  Like most things you usually are introuduced to something new.  This has been my experience for the past few years.  As to what I have tried, well, I will try almost anything once, twice if I like it. 😉

Unfortunately there are things that I don’t get aroused from.  One is bondage play which stems from my younger days and an interaction with my first long term girlfriend.  Back then I was a cook at a resturant and working with heavy pans you build up strong muscles in your wrists and hands.  Unknowning to me I gripped her wrists to tightly by accident and she told me it hurts.  To this day I focus to not hurt the woman during sex.  I understand that bondage is not always to hurt. It is to restrict the person but for myself I do not feel comfortable with doing that.

One advantage of having more than one partner in this life style is that each person brings there own bag of tricks.  Experience and pleasure is the ultimate goal and everyone is different.  Some squirt while others like to do the bondage.  I just like making woman cum, and if they squirt that is a bonus.  Some love to use toys on woman.  I always feel that I am being replaced by toys but I am starting to slowly come around to toy play.  Krystalla3 would love to hear that, since it is one thing that she loves.  She also is now keen on the bondage thing.  Myself I can’t get there so for here to explore outside of myself it makes me a little nervous.  Not to mention a bit jealous that it is something that I doubt I can experience with her.

Now you are wondering “Why is he not talking to her about this directly?” and the simple answer is we have.  We have talked about this lots of times and she reminds me that she understands that I do not get off on it.  Like I mentioned above, it is something that she is looking for and with other partners it is possible.  My problem is that I feel I let her down, something that I can’t do to please her.  We have both agreed to do what we enjoy and if we try something new and didn’t like it we don’t have to do it again.  Problem is that if one person enjoys it and the other doesn’t where do you go from there?

It is a delima that I didn’t expect to come up since I thought I could do most things. Now I am fighting internally to figure out what does turn me on. What other things besides the act of sex gives me an arousal?

For the past week or so I want to try something new.  Just don’t know what NEW is?  Is it s new couple?  Is it a new girl?  Does it involve toys?  I just don’t know.  I think it stems from my quad signing up on a new site geared towards fetishes.  I didn’t want to join up since I didn’t want the disappointment of being ignored again.  For any site the men out way the woman and it seems that being a woman makes it a lot easier to be engaged.  Men not so much. And I really don’t think I have any fetish.

Looking forward I think new rules will be imposed if that is the direction she wants to explore. Not rules for the bondage but more if it will involve people outside our group. Alone play is not an issue we have done that in the past. Tying my wife up involves a large amount of trust. Regardless if she trusts them I need to also trust them too.

I bounced around in a lot of different places for this blog entry. My mind does that since it is taking all the information in and than formulating a conclusion. At this point I don’t have one yet but stay tuned. When I do I will let you know.

Dicks in a room

When I was younger I frequented the local strip clubs.  Grand illusions that maybe one them hot chicks would take an interest in me beyond just making a few dollars.  Of course it never happened and you always come out poorer.  One thing that I did notice one night in a club which didn’t make much sense to me until I entered into the lifestyle. It happened one night when I was visiting a friend and went club hopping. Been to this club a couple of times and I enjoy the atmosphere.  One thing different was there were a few bachelor parties going on.

At one point they had the grooms men on stage, three of them,  sitting on chairs.  They then we’re told they had to lap dance for the ladies.  It was funny to watch until the end of it when the ladies pulled down there pants.  Never seen that happen before.  Little while later a stripper came on stage tossing around a beach ball.  It ended up being stuck on one of the chairs of stage and she motioned someone to get it. Continue reading Dicks in a room

Couples – Boobs, Hands, Cocks… Oh My!

Twitter chatter has brought me back to my first group experience.  For my first with more then two couples since it is a very different dynamic since it is not just a swap.  It was a very unique and surprising experience since it was not actually planned to happen the way it did.  Let me explain. Continue reading Couples – Boobs, Hands, Cocks… Oh My!