Little lost

There is always a cycle of ups and downs in our lives.  I am going through an extended downward spiral.  Not by choice but by circumstance.

Maybe because I am burying my grandfather this weekend.  Maybe cause I have had majority of my fwb go off the market.  Maybe since I haven’t meet anyone new in months.  Add on family and work and it seems to have hit critical mass.  Continue reading Little lost

Door Swinging Open

Open relationship is very different then swinging.  Primarily open relationships is usually alone play and swinging is a group.  The differences in emotions along with the experience can make it difficult for some couples.  For our relationship we started a bit backwards.  We explored the open relationship and then transitioned to swinging based on circumstance.

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It was a Crappy Night

It was a rainy night, well not really.  It did rain most of the day but it is cold out. They used to have the smoking area in another room but it is now moved to be outside in the cold.  It does get pretty warm in the club after a bit of time, so the cold air does help to cool off.  The girls usually go outside throughout the evening to cool off after dancing.

Lexxi and I went outside few times to cool off. I wasn’t dancing but I was enjoying the few girls that were. Actually met one couple when we were outside the first time. She was in a sexy red dress and she knew how to move.  Her dancing had me focused on her entirely.  To the point I felt embarrassed watching her since I was imaging what I could do to her.

The evening was going well although Lexxi did make Bob’s drink to strong.  The meds he was on had an adverse effect on him. Basically he was drunk on one drink.  Granted it was a strong drink.  I became the DD after that which he appreciated since he was seeing double.

Did get the pool table to ourselves for a bit later in the evening.  It is in the back out of sight of the dance floor.  Bob joined us and was sitting in the chair with us basically trying to stay awake.  At one point a woman asked our wives if it was okay if she sat in his lap and put her boobs in his face.  Since it was later in the evening and the midnight snacks were out most of the people were mingling near the pool table.

It felt good to play pool again. I am no shark but I do know how to play a decent game. During this time I noticed one of the girls walking back awkwardly. Her one foot seemed to be injured as she walked on her heel with the help of one of the staff.  They moved to the shower and proceed to wash her foot. Thought it was a bit weird but dismissed it since it she didn’t seem like she was in any pain.

For those of you that don’t know I watch everyone at the club. It gives me a sense that I am doing something. As it was I ate to much at dinner and couldn’t barely do anything until my stomach settled down. It also allows me to know who is with who. Observing other people gives me a sense on who they are.  My cute red dress had a guy already and I suspect that they arranged to be there together. The wives liked her husband so hopefully I see them again.  Although it was funny watching the guy try to dance with her.  She offered her ass up a few times for grinding but he just kept spinning her around and dancing away from her.  I would never turn down an ass to grind.

After I finished playing a couple of games of pool I headed outside again.  All of the staff were outside and talking and giggling.  Letting me join the circle they continued their conversation and since I was walking into the middle of it I tried to catch up.  When they mentioned shit for the third time I finally figured out.

It seems that sometime after we were in the back playing pool, someone took a dump on the dance floor.  The discussion was about why and the effort on getting the lady who stepped in it cleaned up.  Hence the woman I saw being lead to the showers to wash it off.  The staff were baffled, as much as myself and the jokes started to flow pretty much after that.  Needless to say when I went back in I told both wives and they were baffled as much as I was.

We left not to much later after that.  The ladies had gotten a few comments about how they were dressed that night so they were beaming on the way home.  We were in bed pretty much after we got home after greeting the dogs and getting them settled down..  The next morning it didn’t take long for the shit jokes to start.  They seem to flow pretty damn easily.  Really didn’t stop all day and into the evening.  Surprising how much you can say referring to shit. It was a fun night, and actually I am looking forward to go back again.   Seems every time I go there is one story that seems to come out of the night.

Love, Life, and the lifestyle

I haven’t had to explain my situation of late.  When I do the hardest part for people to understand is why?  My girlfriend wrote Why Poly? Why Not? recently regarding this and I would like to expand on it a bit too.  Well more add my two cents about my thoughts and experiences.

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Firsts in my mind

We have had a lot of firsts.  We have done orgy, group sex, among other things.  The rule for Krystalla and myself is that we have to have done it first before it can be done with anyone else without each other.  Fair rule since we want to enjoy the experience for the first time together.  We went into this together and it is only fair that we have the experiences shared for the first time too. Continue reading Firsts in my mind

Flashback – First swing

We started swinging because I was not able to find any women.  The hardest part in this lifestyle is finding like minded people let alone women who understand that I am married and can fuck.  Still is a battle even now.  Krystalla realized how frustrating it was for me back then and she suggested swinging, to let me experience another woman.  By chance we did find a couple and ended up meeting one evening.  This is a recount on what happened and lessons learned.

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Friends First

One of the hardest things to find are friends in the lifestyle.  Oh you can meet people and get along but to have that connection on all levels is unique.  Trust and honesty is also another factor.  We have been fortunate and have met two couples that we connected with.  Actually there was another couple but that is whole different story.  Although the downfall is that they are not close by.  This makes it hard to meet up, even as a group with life and work being priority.  So timing (sounds familiar) is something that seems to be hard to nail down.  Although because we are friends first we still chat on a regular basis so it helps to build the relationship even though we may not see each other in person that often. Continue reading Friends First

Birthday and new friends

I swear the birthdays just don’t seem to end. Since March it seems someone always has a birth around the corner. This time it is Lexxi’s turn and Bob had made arrangements for some of their friends to come over to celebrate it.

Krystalla informed me that they were friends they have met through different meet ups in local area. I have heard about them during our chats about the meet ups and what they experienced at them. I was a little excited. Well more than a little.  Meeting like mind people in the lifestyle is a lot of fun. Plus you get to hear about other experiences. Continue reading Birthday and new friends

Don’t expect it

I would like to thank one of my followers for this suggestion from my contact page.  It is a point that I have touched on a few times over the year but really never dwell on it to much.  Communication is very important as I mentioned numerous times, but setting expectations is something that also is equally important.  Without setting expectations things can get out of control, or worse drama can ensue that could cause complications or problems after the fact.

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Respect is expected by the woman

For those of you that know me I am a very respectful and patient man.  I always respect the woman’s wishes and because of that I have usually missed golden opportunities.  This was not always the case when I was younger, and just after my college years I went through a selfish phase.  Mostly because of failed relationships, I became the hunter looking for any woman I can fuck.   Continue reading Respect is expected by the woman