Bruised and sore

So this will obviously get a reaction from the few women that I see.  This is something that I have been working on dealing with. I am not kinky, and don’t give a woman pain. I have tried and dabbled when we first entered this world but quickly knew it was not for me.

A few of my women are into kink, including my wife.  It has something that has been part of our life but not part of me.  I am not able to do any of it after trying multiple different things. Don’t get me wrong, I understand a lot after being in the kink lifestyle by association. Long ago I found out that I could not give pain to any woman.  So with that in mind, and then having this whole world opening up to my wife and me it has been a soul searching time for both of us.
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Illness relationships

Never ever say that you haven’t gotten sick. Seems it will bite you in the ass. Found that out over two weeks ago.

Caught strep throat somehow and luckily didn’t infect anyone I know.That was a fun ten days. Meds finished and then I catch cold.

This is also during a new girl that I have met recently. We have been together twice so far and considering the timing I appreciate her patience. Also impacts my other local girl too. Timing just sucks. One thing that I am very careful is if I’m sick I avoid any contact with anyone including any relationship I’m in. Don’t need to expand the infection let alone get into a loop where we keep getting sick over and over again. Continue reading Illness relationships

Little lost

There is always a cycle of ups and downs in our lives.  I am going through an extended downward spiral.  Not by choice but by circumstance.

Maybe because I am burying my grandfather this weekend.  Maybe cause I have had majority of my fwb go off the market.  Maybe since I haven’t meet anyone new in months.  Add on family and work and it seems to have hit critical mass.  Continue reading Little lost

Re-Union with Lilly

Funny how distance can make relationships feel like a new experience after many months.  Lily planned to visit with her kids for a Canadian vacation for our second meet up of the year.   Knowing that it will be a challenge to have her alone to spend time together since all our kids will be home.  Normally for any event, I don’t think about it to much.   Have had many disappointments in the past so I try to stay in check up to the day of the event.  But my excitement got higher with each day passing. Continue reading Re-Union with Lilly

Sex talk

Sex is usually talked about behind closed doors.  Something that is instilled by our parents when we are young.  It is taboo.  Shouldn’t be talked about.  Heck even TV and movies didn’t show anything since it is so bad for you.  Fast forward some years ahead (nice try, birthday is coming up but not going to reveal my age that easy) and the landscape has changed somewhat.  For one, TV has embraced sex.  The regular tv stations are trying to match what the subscription based ones have done for the past few years.  Hard to do since they have had full nudity along with some very graphic sex scenes.  It is a step in the right direction.  Sex is natural.  It happens regardless if we talk about it, show it, or even do it ourselves.

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Finally together again

Monday morning and I am still tired.  Lilly was here since Thursday evening.  She flew in after a slight delay with the plane being late.  It was an odd feeling going to the airport and not being the one travelling.  Seems that I have travelled more in the past year then the past 10 years.  A big smile appears on her face when she sees me waiting for her.  With a long hug and kiss we headed off.

We covered off how the flight was.  Discussed family and just enjoyed being together again.  My mind was debating a few times if I should pull over to give a proper greeting but with it being later then planned with the delay it would just be easier to wait till we got home.  Unfortunately the construction along the highway almost caused us to be delayed.  Luckily I was one of those guys that rode the lane till I had to merge.  Surprisingly we didn’t have much of a delay, although one guy was a little pissed off that I went around him.  Sorry bud, I am on mission to get home safely and we already are behind by an hour.

Upon arriving Krystalla was up, along with the excited dogs.  Greetings went well considering and once the dogs settled down we had a drink and caught up.  Krystalla and Lilly chatted like long lost friends.  Love my wife for that.  She knows pretty much all my women (although there is one that will be meeting her soon, just matter of timing).  After a few drinks for me and one for the ladies we were off to bed.

Needless to say we were up late.  To be fair we didn’t get back home till late.  Tomorrow I was off and the house to myself since the kids will be in school. Even though we have a full day alone together we made the up for lost time that night.  I giggle to myself as I watch Lilly try to control her volume as we had sex.  It was cute.

On four hours of sleep I got up with the dogs.  Once they had their morning routine completed I headed downstairs with coffee in hand and xbox controller in the other.  Plugged the headset in so not to disturb Lilly.  Unfortunately I should have worn a gag since I was cursing the other players in Halo as I was getting slaughtered.  She heard that part.

I almost cheered when the house became empty.  I was coming in from the garage after receiving a text from Lilly when I stopped dead in my tracks.  She was dressed in lingerie and net stockings with garter belt.  Most of my women know that I am not into clothing, since it seems to come off so quickly, but this caught my eye.  My cock reacted very well to it too.  It didn’t take long to have her downstairs again and back in bed.  The day went by slowly, with talking, sex and more talking.  This was the first day since we originally met back in January were we weren’t on a clock and had things to do.  It was relaxing, and something I think we needed after the previous visits being so chaotic with activities.

I did make a promise to her a while ago.  It was something that she wanted to try, and had worked out a plan over the week regarding on how to make it happen.  It was nothing too complicated.  Leading her downstairs I then asked her to strip.  As she was getting undressed I pulled out the sex swing and got it hooked up.  I notice that to her “undress” means bra and panties on.  I corrected her and said “everything,” she smiled and took the rest of her clothes off.  I then helped her into the swing.  There she was spread eagle with a full view of her pussy, as I pulled out the blindfold from my pocket and put it over her eyes.  Quickly asking about her safe words to make sure I understood to ensure I didn’t do anything to much for her.

Taking the candle out I light it.  Got some of the wax melted and then proceed to apply it very slowly and carefully on her.  She whimpered and moaned when each drop hit her skin.  As more wax melted it then started to drip more then a few drops and she got louder, and asked to have it slower.  Like I can control wax when it drips off the candle.  Doing my best I worked to only let one drop fall.  After covering her body in certain spots I stopped.  I then proceed to fuck her.  The swing allows movement so in reality you don’t have to do as much hip movement, but your arms seem to work more.  She was in heaven as she bounced off my cock and shudder and shake with enjoyment.  I am happy that I had the chance to get to try the wax with her.

The afternoon ended up with the quad meeting and their introductions to Lilly.  Being worried on how Lexxi will be has been on my mind for a while since it is going to be my weekend with Lilly.  This has been communicated to me by Krystalla very clearly.  Conversation flowed easily, and even though I was drained from the past 24 hrs I enjoyed myself.  It wasn’t a late night with Lilly and myself being up so late the night before.  When we crawled into bed we cuddled and fell asleep in each others arms.

 

Love, Life, and the lifestyle

I haven’t had to explain my situation of late.  When I do the hardest part for people to understand is why?  My girlfriend wrote Why Poly? Why Not? recently regarding this and I would like to expand on it a bit too.  Well more add my two cents about my thoughts and experiences.

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Feverish

Locking the door I turn around to see my prey. She is only in bra and panties standing there looking at me wondering what I will do next. I smile forms on my lips and I move slowly towards her. She doesn’t move as I approach her.

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Inner circles

One thing that I have found interesting is the amount of relationships that you can build in the lifestyle.  The interaction and how everyone knows each other fascinates me.  This also means that there are potentially more risk.  Open communication is so important, more so with multiple partners.

Recently had my tests done for STD and came back negative.  I was not to worried about it.  Want to find an easier way to do this since I don’t want to have to book my appointment with my doctor each time.  This also brings up another point that has been on my mind all weekend.  Exposing the group to a potential risk.  Not something that I want to happen, but with this lifestyle there is bound to be a question about it.

Let me step back and qualify something.  Last year a member of our quad had found a fwb.  Unfortunately an issue came up with STD and because of the risk to the quad it was tabled for all of us to discuss.  It was a pretty short conversation, and it didn’t take long for the option to continue was rejected due to the risk.  It was not something that was easy to discuss and I knew it would be something that will come up again.

Our quad has also gotten more social of late. Well not us but our other couple, going to regular hangouts with like-minded people. This has allowed them to meet and get to know others in the lifestyle.  I am a little envious with the options, for one that they have a decent group of like-minded friends that regularly hangout and do activities.  We don’t really have that were we are, at least not to the degree it seems.  Most likely we will try to get out for one meet up just to get a basis of the people in our area.

Anyways I am getting side tracked.  We actually got to meet their friends one evening for a party.  Lot of fun that evening and I can understand why they got along with this group.  Friendly and respectful, everyone seem to just get along so easily, it was a great evening of laughs.  Also let me meet another lady who has me curious, and by chance she was going to near by for business a month later.  She asked me if I was free and if I wanted to go out, which I jumped at the chance.  Sex was not on the table, but it was still be a good time in just hanging out.

We texted on and off up to the day of the date.  Discussing her relationships issues and other facts about both of ourselves.  By the time the date rolled around I had a fairly good understanding of who she was.  At least until dinner that evening.  She opened up more, and I was probably wide-eyed at the information that she provided to me.  Needless to say I had a great time at dinner.  The stories we shared about past experiences along with likes had me curious.  After we got back to her hotel, which we couldn’t stay in her room for a number of reasons, we just wandered the property talking.  This is where the awkward conversation came up, the one where STD is brought up.

The reason I say awkward is very important.  First it was cute how she was fumbling around trying to get this issue brought up.  Secondly, the only reason most people are awkward about something that could affect them along with the person they are talking to is because she has interests.  I already had some idea of this talking to the quad, but this was the first clear sign that she was interested in me.  This is what made my mind go into overdrive as she attempted to explain the situation.  It is not overly complicated, the risk is still a risk and needed to be brought up.  She also was aware of the situation that was brought up before since she is also friends with that lady.  Like I implied earlier, small circle of friends.

We didn’t do anything that evening, as much as I really wanted too.  Someone how my cock was rock hard just hugging her.  Which reminds me I still have to get her back for that.  Anyways, this brought up the need to have another talk with the quad.  Krystalla stated that this is a different situation and as much as she tried to make me believe that, I knew that it wasn’t.  After the last meeting it was pretty clear to the woman on what needed to be done.  I didn’t think it was going to be that complicated this time either.

The discussion was pretty quick.  Honestly, it was mostly the woman talking.  Both of us men were quiet, knowing the outcome regardless of this formal talk over Skype.  I basically did a “I told you so” at the end and basically vented to myself as I was outside having a brain break.  I think my main concern is not the STD, the risks to the quad, or even to the my other fwb, but that it feels that we shunned this person because of the potential exposure she could have.  Think that is my biggest issue.  Feeling that we isolate them because of the risk.  Sure we hang out, party and flirt, but the physical part is off-limits due to the risk.

The last thing that was going through my mind was my fwb.  The risk and exposure are something that I can’t share with them, and to be honest I hope that they have the same respect for me if they are also finding something like this out.  One of my former fwb had a scare after we first met.  Timeline I was not affected, but it was something that made me realize that the risk does exist.  You see I went bareback before I was married.  I rarely used condoms.  Really wasn’t the most innocent back then.  Then again I am not really that innocent right now.

So after all this writing, and telling everyone about this situation, what is the point to this blog post?  Simple, get tested on regular basis if you are in the lifestyle.  Always make sure you are upfront with any potential play partner about your current status of STD.  There is nothing to be embarrassed about asking if someone has been tested.  For the sake of everyone that you are involved with, especially your primary partner, make sure to understand if there any risks.  Not like when I was younger and didn’t care, I am now dating for two.  Well, four if you really want to get technical.  Either way the risk I take is also risk for everyone in the quad and not something that I want to risk.  The conversation that we have had now on STD has started other discussions regarding STD.  This topic will never go away and that is good.  It makes sure that we are aware and thinking about that when playing with anyone new, if it happens in the future.

Gigalo and the act

Well my  mind wanders when I drive.  And I have been driving a lot to work of late.  With this it usually falls to three categories.  Women, work, and sex.  Recently we have been hit with number of unexpected bills and has put a strain on our cash flow.  Nothing that we can’t get out of but it does make things more frustrating.  No lotto win this past weekend so it leaves it to wait for next paycheck or raise some cash.  My thoughts wandered again to gigalo and what I would charge for sex.  No idea why this popped into my head, but it did.  Then a weird revelation came to me.

Prostitution has been around since men and woman realized what sex is.  Cash, services or goods were exchanged at times for the act.  Now the act usually has a specific charge.  Oral or sex is the two common ones with the more kinky on occasion.  Now with a man having a hooker in bed for sex, it is kind of obvious when he finished.  Even for oral it is pretty clear.  Not something you can hide easily.  I would assume the act would be charged since paying by the hour and only lasting 15 mins is kind of counter productive.  Then again, maybe I am wrong.  For sake of argument, and for humor sake, lets say it is by the act.  When he pops the act is done and the transaction closed.  Here is my question if the roles were reversed.

Gigalo would charge lets say $200 for sex.  Now since we have a limited amount of “pops” and we also can’t go all night I am curious on how this would be qualified.  Couldn’t be for when the woman has an orgasm since some can’t even have one during sex.  Others can have one every five minutes.  So for this activity would it have to be for an hour, half an hour, by the actual act until the mom pops?  Guess that would be for oral too.  If the woman can’t cum from oral would you be doing oral til she cums?  Would get lock-jaw at some point.

This leaves the argument that it would be a time amount.  Krystalla said that is only thing that makes sense since as I pointed out the act and depending on the partners can orgasm quite differently.  I tried to argue with this logic but it is sound.  Time would be a factor for the act.  The only question would be the time for the man’s performance.  And we all know how that can be up and down, no pun intended, well maybe a little.

And I haven’t even gotten into the BDSM acts that some people pay for.  Regardless that would be a time thing and even with what I know wouldn’t be cheap since some sessions can go on for hours.  Hmm, maybe I need to look at BDSM more now.

My mind is a bit twisted and debates on these ideas in my head.  Bouncing back queries and arguments much like two lawyers in a court room does.  Trying to get the point across with the most logical explanation.  I have never had a hooker, and only ever had a lap dance once which is a whole other story.  Either way I am curious on what your thoughts are?  And also for fun sake what would you charge for an act?  Lets have some fun and dream up how we can sell our talent for a change.  Everyone is good at something so lets see what we think about it and how we could charge for it?  Please leave all thoughts in the comments below.