Bruised and sore

So this will obviously get a reaction from the few women that I see.  This is something that I have been working on dealing with. I am not kinky, and don’t give a woman pain. I have tried and dabbled when we first entered this world but quickly knew it was not for me.

A few of my women are into kink, including my wife.  It has something that has been part of our life but not part of me.  I am not able to do any of it after trying multiple different things. Don’t get me wrong, I understand a lot after being in the kink lifestyle by association. Long ago I found out that I could not give pain to any woman.  So with that in mind, and then having this whole world opening up to my wife and me it has been a soul searching time for both of us.
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Illness relationships

Never ever say that you haven’t gotten sick. Seems it will bite you in the ass. Found that out over two weeks ago.

Caught strep throat somehow and luckily didn’t infect anyone I know.That was a fun ten days. Meds finished and then I catch cold.

This is also during a new girl that I have met recently. We have been together twice so far and considering the timing I appreciate her patience. Also impacts my other local girl too. Timing just sucks. One thing that I am very careful is if I’m sick I avoid any contact with anyone including any relationship I’m in. Don’t need to expand the infection let alone get into a loop where we keep getting sick over and over again. Continue reading Illness relationships

Re-Union with Lilly

Funny how distance can make relationships feel like a new experience after many months.  Lily planned to visit with her kids for a Canadian vacation for our second meet up of the year.   Knowing that it will be a challenge to have her alone to spend time together since all our kids will be home.  Normally for any event, I don’t think about it to much.   Have had many disappointments in the past so I try to stay in check up to the day of the event.  But my excitement got higher with each day passing. Continue reading Re-Union with Lilly

Door Swinging Open

Open relationship is very different then swinging.  Primarily open relationships is usually alone play and swinging is a group.  The differences in emotions along with the experience can make it difficult for some couples.  For our relationship we started a bit backwards.  We explored the open relationship and then transitioned to swinging based on circumstance.

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Dating Landscape

So the last new girl that I have met and been with physically is about Feb.  This is a long time for me, since it is one of my little fetishes.  New blood is hard to come by and lately it appears that it will be a while yet.  I have reviewed the dating sites off and on with no regularity.  What I have found is basically, well nothing.  I have sent out a few messages with no responses.  No interest on playing the odds and sending out hundreds of messages in the hopes of getting one back.  Not to mention it is time-consuming and frustrating.

With the recent hack of Ashley Madison it also puts new light on something that I found out a while ago when I did some research on another dating site. Continue reading Dating Landscape

Love, Life, and the lifestyle

I haven’t had to explain my situation of late.  When I do the hardest part for people to understand is why?  My girlfriend wrote Why Poly? Why Not? recently regarding this and I would like to expand on it a bit too.  Well more add my two cents about my thoughts and experiences.

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Porn star approved

Well you wouldn’t know it but I have tried to call into radio shows in the past when younger.  Never got through.  Always got jealous at the people that did, and wondering how my luck can always be that bad.  So when my wife opened up and stated she wanted another cock, and that she might have found one already I was stunned.  Actually dazed for about two days.  I process internally for majority of things, and I started to write.  I had to get the ideas and thoughts out of my head.  During this time I was listening to a podcast religously, Having Sex, With Katie Morgan.  She was a retired porn star discussing sex, her work history and just being herself.  She has done other shows and discussions about sex but this one I could listen to at work.  Always enjoyed her honesty and some of the stories were hilarious.

She answers peoples emails so I figured what the hell it can’t hurt.  I wrote up a fairly lengthly email and sent it off.  I keep listening for the next few days and nothing came up.  I mentioned to Krystalla that I wrote in and she smiled.  She knew I was dealing with the change and she was patient with me.  The next day she told me to listen to the show, which kind of gave it away, but I quickly queued it up and listen.  I have captured the portion for another friend of ours who I told so she could listen as well.  Kept it all these years, and now I figure it is a good time as any with my one year anniversary approaching with the blog to let everyone else listen.  I hope you enjoy it, and please leave comments on your thoughts below.

Having Sex, With Katie Morgan 58: Thursday, October 20, 2011

Friends First

One of the hardest things to find are friends in the lifestyle.  Oh you can meet people and get along but to have that connection on all levels is unique.  Trust and honesty is also another factor.  We have been fortunate and have met two couples that we connected with.  Actually there was another couple but that is whole different story.  Although the downfall is that they are not close by.  This makes it hard to meet up, even as a group with life and work being priority.  So timing (sounds familiar) is something that seems to be hard to nail down.  Although because we are friends first we still chat on a regular basis so it helps to build the relationship even though we may not see each other in person that often. Continue reading Friends First

Birthday and new friends

I swear the birthdays just don’t seem to end. Since March it seems someone always has a birth around the corner. This time it is Lexxi’s turn and Bob had made arrangements for some of their friends to come over to celebrate it.

Krystalla informed me that they were friends they have met through different meet ups in local area. I have heard about them during our chats about the meet ups and what they experienced at them. I was a little excited. Well more than a little.  Meeting like mind people in the lifestyle is a lot of fun. Plus you get to hear about other experiences. Continue reading Birthday and new friends

Location Location Location

So not having a empty house to use is a pain.  Add on the fact that your date has the same problem and it makes it hard to hook up.  And no I don’t mean just for coffee, I mean for sex.  Yes there are a few that I see that we hook up for sex when we meet since it is so rare to see each other.  This is something that even Krystalla can attest to.  When she first started dating her bf she has the same problem.  They would go out, talk and hang out but when they wanted to fool around they ran into the same problem.  Where do we go?
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