Benefits reduced

I always let the woman know that benefits are a bonus.  Sure, I wish it can happen more but timing and life is a factor.  The other side of the coin is how relationships change.  Again I have lost benefits from one of my good friends.  It is funny how things happen and even over the year I have known her I should at least be used to it.  I’m not.  Continue reading Benefits reduced

Unique can not be forgotten

For past few weeks I have had the good fortune of seeing a few of my fwb.  Timing has actually worked out, although it seems like when it rains it pours.  This week especially has been busy.  The sex has been great as well, but there has been one common factor of late that I am now realizing.

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One thing that I have thought humorous over past the years is “the number”.  Telling a guy friend that I am seeing 5 girls at once they pretty much give you a high-five.  Response from a woman is not the same.  Most times there is a long pause.  Then lots of questions.

I do not hide that I am married.  That is usually the first thing that a woman gets defensive about.  The second is that I have other girls as friends.  Some intimate but really not a regular thing.  Funny thing is men hear that and can’t understand why I would do that.  Why would you want to have all these women and not have sex with them.  The women react similar to a degree, but seem to understand better once I explain it. Continue reading Transparency

8 degrees of FWB

Since I started my blog I have done some topics that were brought up by other friends.  Primarily related to the lifestyle have been some of those.  My hope is that with me exposing the topic and working through what my thoughts about it are might allow the readers to open their mind to the thought.  Digest what I say and formulate their own opinion.  I am not preacher, or all knowing, Continue reading 8 degrees of FWB

Monday Reality

Monday morning I head off to work, still smiling from the past weekend.  I had no idea on my surprise, let alone how much it lifted my spirits up.  The past week was very hard and it was just the boost I needed to get me back to my old self.  My wife was almost giddy at the whole experience beaming whenever Lilly and me were together.  She knows how strong Lilly and myself connected and can see it.

Our last night together I sent my wife off to see her boytoy.  It was for a couple of reasons, with one they invited her and two that they placed an order for beer at our local distillery.  After the order was paid for I told her that there is a delivery fee.   Continue reading Monday Reality

Feeling limitations

For some of you that follow me I have a few fwb. Well if I was to count them up you would be shaking your head. Doesn’t mean I have sex all the time. We are all busy with life, family, work and friends. This is my dilemma of late on balancing the relationships. Of late there is one that has been the hardest.

She is one of my locals. And by that I mean the closest one of my fwb. We connected quickly when we were first started chatting. That carried over to sex and her meeting the quad.  We had a strong connection right from the beginning and Krystalla saw that when she met her the first time.

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Do Not Disturb please?

Being away from home has been challenging. More than that, I also found it hard since I have this King size bed and no one to fill it with me. I told my wife Jane before I left that I would be hunting while away. She wished me luck with a smile and a kiss.

Unfortunately I worked like a dog the first week, by the weekend I was bone tired. Plus I was getting horny. The women I have seen down here were very attractive. Even the dating sites (although they do have a problem with roaming from your home town) had some very interesting people. After a long day I settled into my big lonely bed and searched.

Of the few women I found, one did stand out. Continue reading Do Not Disturb please?

Distance – it’s a bitch

With the couples that we have met over the past few years one thing is in common.  Distance is a factor.  Now we don’t go out to clubs and meet people.  True that can work, but for our selves we don’t work that way.  We have used dating sites and of all things twitter.  The couples we have met have been amazing.  There were a few road bumps but that comes with experience and a little bit of luck. Continue reading Distance – it’s a bitch

Exposing my inner thoughts on the dark side

Unknown to me when I was younger, I was dominate when having sex.  I would direct and control the woman with my voice.  Fast forward to now and it something that I am struggling with.  Not the verbal part, that is coming back in stages since I turned it off when I married my wife. She was innocent back then and didn’t come out of her shell till some time later.
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Balance, it is not that easy

This year will be an interesting one.  Hopefully with change.  Personally I am looking to move out of my role, along with trying to find my wife a new job.  Both have taken a toll since it has been an up hill battle, with one step forward and about five back.  Along with that I am also dealing with other issues, namely my girlfriends.

I don’t have any clever nickname for them, unlike my wife’s “boy toys” which I coined within the first year.  And to be serious they don’t deserve a nickname.  If they were just a fuck and forget than maybe, Continue reading Balance, it is not that easy