Bruised and sore

So this will obviously get a reaction from the few women that I see.  This is something that I have been working on dealing with. I am not kinky, and don’t give a woman pain. I have tried and dabbled when we first entered this world but quickly knew it was not for me.

A few of my women are into kink, including my wife.  It has something that has been part of our life but not part of me.  I am not able to do any of it after trying multiple different things. Don’t get me wrong, I understand a lot after being in the kink lifestyle by association. Long ago I found out that I could not give pain to any woman.  So with that in mind, and then having this whole world opening up to my wife and me it has been a soul searching time for both of us.
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Out of arms reach

You can’t chose who you have feelings for.  It happens.  This is something I have gotten used to over the past few years.  The problem is that most women aren’t close by.

So when you have a person who is far away and having a tough time I feel powerless.  I want to help.  Need to help.  That is who I am.  When you can’t do it frustrates me.  Continue reading Out of arms reach

Little lost

There is always a cycle of ups and downs in our lives.  I am going through an extended downward spiral.  Not by choice but by circumstance.

Maybe because I am burying my grandfather this weekend.  Maybe cause I have had majority of my fwb go off the market.  Maybe since I haven’t meet anyone new in months.  Add on family and work and it seems to have hit critical mass.  Continue reading Little lost

Re-Union with Lilly

Funny how distance can make relationships feel like a new experience after many months.  Lily planned to visit with her kids for a Canadian vacation for our second meet up of the year.   Knowing that it will be a challenge to have her alone to spend time together since all our kids will be home.  Normally for any event, I don’t think about it to much.   Have had many disappointments in the past so I try to stay in check up to the day of the event.  But my excitement got higher with each day passing. Continue reading Re-Union with Lilly

Sex talk

Sex is usually talked about behind closed doors.  Something that is instilled by our parents when we are young.  It is taboo.  Shouldn’t be talked about.  Heck even TV and movies didn’t show anything since it is so bad for you.  Fast forward some years ahead (nice try, birthday is coming up but not going to reveal my age that easy) and the landscape has changed somewhat.  For one, TV has embraced sex.  The regular tv stations are trying to match what the subscription based ones have done for the past few years.  Hard to do since they have had full nudity along with some very graphic sex scenes.  It is a step in the right direction.  Sex is natural.  It happens regardless if we talk about it, show it, or even do it ourselves.

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Introductions to my wife

Over the years that we have been in the lifestyle (has it been for years already?) I have made a lot of new friends.  Most of these women have met my wife.  As well I have met majority of their spouses.  I don’t think anything of it when introducing my new friends/lovers to my wife.  Something that we have learned is having Krystalla know them in person.  Helps when I am out with them on a date. Continue reading Introductions to my wife

Last few days went by too quick

Saturday was relaxing considering how tired we were the night before.  I got up with the dogs at my usual time.   We really didn’t do much Saturday.   The quad and Lilly get to know each other better.  Also had the photo shoot that Numbnutts promised.  I didn’t watch much of it but from the pics should look stunning.  I even got to watch her change in front of me.  Had to resist not taking her right there.

We also found out that Chad and Mellisa would be attending the party tonight.   I’m happy that Lilly gets to meet most of my local friends while she is her.  After dinner we then started eyeing the time.  We got a few hands of Cards Against Humanity.  Funny how a raunchy game can make people turn in to silly kids again.  After we finished the game we then got ready for the party. Continue reading Last few days went by too quick

Isolation with no data

Travelling is really fun.  Get to see new places and have new experiences.  The adventure you can have can very depending on where you go.  I don’t travel a lot but have done so more in past year than in the past 10 years.  When I visited Chicago in the summer to see my girlfriend I found out how much fun not have data on your phone can be.  Being in a city where you don’t know much about can make you feel a bit lost.  Not to mention communicating with your wife and friends is limited. Continue reading Isolation with no data

The bug

Being sick is not fun.  More so if you are trying to keep your partner from getting sick.  The “no contact” that you try to ensure during the illness takes a lot of effort.  More so if you have multiple friends that you see.  The hardest thing is that if you see them less often, you sometimes might be selfish and not say anything.
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Door Swinging Open

Open relationship is very different then swinging.  Primarily open relationships is usually alone play and swinging is a group.  The differences in emotions along with the experience can make it difficult for some couples.  For our relationship we started a bit backwards.  We explored the open relationship and then transitioned to swinging based on circumstance.

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