Simple question with so many different layers. I know for myself that if I ask a woman out for drinks it means that I am interested. At least if I was single that is what it meant. Doesn’t mean I am getting sex. Heck I usually can’t tell if the woman is even interested. Going out for drinks is a way for an informal date, to get to know the other person. That is my perspective on it. By the way since I have an open relationship this thought process would still stand. Difference for me is that I don’t expect to get it unless the woman offers.
This has come up because of a good friend of mine is not having much luck of late. The dates that she has gone on have become awkward with the man thinking that they are going to get some. Now alcohol can be a factor in this. Casual flirting and small talk may be another. The concern she has is that it seems that it all men thing that going for drinks will lead to sex. She has made it clear to the man that it is just for drinks but they still assume as evening goes on that more could happen. Some of these men are even married!
Normally drinks is a get to know the person, and who knows, enough alcohol and a few bad decisions and things could happen that way. I am not saying that is right or that all man/woman think along the same lines. What I have for this is a more a question to the public.
In the comments below please let me here you thoughts. If you were asked out for drinks, as just the two of you, what is your expectations? What do you think at the beginning of the night and does your stance change as the evening goes on? For those of you who follow me via other media please comment on this blog so that all can see. If not then only I will see it and for this blog I would hope that we can get some discussion points regarding the “going for drinks” and the assumptions men or even woman make.