13 years later

This morning I woke up feeling almost human. The night was long and only getting about 6 hours sleep I am surprised I feel as good as I do.

As to how the night went I am very surprised. Have not seen my one friend in 13 years and it felt like we have not skipped a beat. Lots of stories and laughs throughout the night. Even better he knows our lifestyle so no need to hide anything. Plus I found out he has experience working with metal. My wife just about creamed her panties when he said he had made shackles for another couple.  Needless to say we will be talking more to him about this.

And to my other friend we had a good chat about him not talking about our lifestyle to other people. Even got worried that my other friend was making moves on my wife.  Good friends are hard to find and I am lucky to have the few close ones from past.

All in all it was great night. Now on to the next night of fun and games. Curious on who I will meet.  Off to shower and shave for the ladies tonight.

Open to Change – the next day

This is the writing I did after I found out my wife wanted to explore.  This is the second part to the story.  This has been edited from my original post that I did.  This does contain sexual content so you are warned that you might get aroused.  Enjoy!



I woke up pretty much every hour on the hour that night tossing and turning.  Being told by your wife she wants to try other cocks kind of does that to you.  I did tell her shortly after we married if she wants to explore that curiosity, since I was her only partner, I would be open to talking about it. The shock to find out that she has already found a man to fuck is a little much.  Am I wrong to be a little angry that she went ahead and looked first without talking about it? Continue reading Open to Change – the next day

Hear ye Hear ye – We are in the Lifestyle

Coming out with friends in the lifestyle is one thing that we have been very careful on how we approach it.  Majority of our friends would probably not fully understand our decision.  Mainly because of their beliefs or personalities.  Not to say that we wouldn’t tell if them if they asked, but we choose when and who should know.  Currently there are probably a handful of my friends that know and a few of my wife’s friends. Continue reading Hear ye Hear ye – We are in the Lifestyle

Open to Change – V2

When we started this adventure it was not by a simple conversation.  It was a shock for me and it took about a week for it to be fully processed.  The first three days were the hardest.  During that time I wrote a few articles.  I posted them on another site and also wrote into a former porn star for guidance.  I actually have the recording of her reply on her podcast.  (maybe I will post that at some point)

Anyway my first story I wrote is based on how I was informed of my wife wanting to explore.  To be fair the way I process information is not the normal way so please understand that everyone deals differently.  I have been criticised harshly on the other site along with my wife being called a whore because of this article.  Luckily she is a sexy whore and I love her with all my heart.

If you enjoy this please let me know in the comments.  Feedback is very helpful for me on what I am posting.  I might even post the rest of the chapters in time if you like this one.

Please note that I edited minor parts due to my writing skills back then were poor but the original content is still the same.


Continue reading Open to Change – V2

Hey wanna go out, my wife doesn’t mind?


Since we have opened up our marriage it has been humorous in some of the things that we took for granted when we were younger.  There was no internet so you had to meet people the old fashion way.  You had to actually talk to them in person.  I know how strange is that?  But seriously, the internet has brought in a whole new way to connect with other people.  This also includes finding new friends that might become more.

I have a few twitter friends that if we were closer I suspect we would have mutual benefits.  What has been nice about twitter is that you can actually interact with them.  Of course you will get the weirdos, the ignorant or god complex ones but you can at least easily see this within a few interactions.  Fortunately for me I have not had to deal many “unique” people on twitter.  I have a close group that we seem to regularly check in with.  To me this is my other family, my twitter family, since they know my lifestyle and understand and accept it.

So back to reality, since we do actually meet people at times in person that maybe you want to pursue.  For me there is one girl that  have been talking to and want to get to know more.  Problem is that for one I just can’t blurt out that I am interested.  She knows I am married with kids.  Secondly there is a few years difference in age, not that it bothers me but to her it might seem like I am old perverted man.

Jokingly with my wife we have discussed this dilemma in the past.  How do you tell someone you are interested but that it is okay my partner is good with it?  Not like you have a certificate/license that says “YOU ARE FREE TO FUCK WHOMEVER YOU WANT”.  Or “Here is my phone you can call her to confirm.”  Maybe have a t-shirt that says “I am available – wife gave me a  hall pass”.

There is no easy way to say or even prove it.  I do want to be honest and upfront with whomever I am dealing with.  To most whom I have told, including my ex-girl friend, they were shocked.  Even more shocked when I told my ex that wife didn’t mind if we hooked up again.  She actually texted her to confirm that it was okay.  I appreciate that she can do this since we both have a standing relationship with her but if you meet someone new I don’t see that same solution would apply.

So how have I told friends or people I met?  Normally it is the conscious effort of being busy on the phone.  Texting and chatting regularly.  Yes it may seem rude but it will force a conversation to happen that is if you want it to happen.  Other times we have just advised the friend on what is happening.  Surprisingly have had one friend said “I thought you have been doing this for years already.”  Good to know that I am sex fiend.  I told a few of the woman that we were drinking with when I was on a conference about a year go that I was in open relationship.  How I told them?  My phone kept going off and they asked who it was.  Told them it was my girlfriend.  They then started asking questions about the lifestyle.

There is no easy way to approach someone and start up a conversation, and then midway through mention that you are married but allowed to explore on your own.  Most woman, I would think, would react badly to it.  To me if I heard that I would think it was a lie unless I can confirm that.  Which is the problem since I doubt a stranger is going to be able to validate the claim easily.  Not like your spouse is your wingman (or maybe she is, you are a lucky one 😉 ) so they couldn’t just ask in person.

So how do you come out, be honest, and not offend or scare the potential new friend away?  That is a question that I do not see an easy answer too.  Everyone is different both in how they approach it and the situation.  If you are lucky maybe you have found an easier way to do it.  For me I am going to have to rely on patience and wait for the right time to bring it up.

For those of you out there what has been your dating experience in the lifestyle?  How did you approach new people that are unsure if they were in lifestyle?  Have you had any non swingers find out and then want to explore (or as I have been told converted them)?  And for the ladies what has been the worst pick-up line that you heard?  And please think of this as person to person and not online.  Leave your thoughts in the comments below.