I have chatted with a girl after we had casual encounter recently. We didn’t have sex but we did fool around. What I found out was she felt the walk of shame. For me I have never really had that issue. I might have some regrets on what I didn’t get a chance to try but for some woman there is some guilt.
Now this really depends on their personality or what transpired that evening from my point of view. I have had a few woman feel shame or guilt after and I didn’t really have an answer to why they felt this way. I have been thinking about this more of late only because I want the woman to feel happy about what happen. Why should you be embarrassed of having sex?
When we are younger and do these kind of last minute hook up some woman get labelled. This was pretty standard high school mentality. Being older I would think that being branded those names doesn’t exist. I guess I was wrong since one woman has mentioned that she worries on being labelled after the encounter. I don’t believe that it will happen but I can’t say for sure.
Now being older I have a better understanding compared to high school. High school always had the labels for sluts and the easy girls. Not that I ever had any luck with those, I earned my pussy the hard way by actually dating them. I really do not see this attitude carry over to adults.
I don’t think I have heard of anyone classified as sluts when I have been older. Even in the lifestyle there is no sluts. Well okay we may call them sluts but that is because of role play. Labelling anyone at my age now to me is non practical. We are more aware of what a decision entails. And if you are horny and need someone to please you then go ahead. You are empowered to act on your urges when you older. No one can judge you on what you want to do. We are grown up and past that or at least I want to believe we have.
Guilt, I think, is more that you exposed yourself to someone for some cheap fun. At least that is how I perceive it. I may have felt guilty after but more that I wish I had more time to please her. If there is any guilt or regret is I felt I didn’t do enough and could have done better. I still have those feelings at times. More so if it is chance hook up. I love to please a woman and I feel I failed in some way I have regret.
Does the walk of shame for woman means they are not comfortable with themselves? I don’t think so since being older you have gone through your fair share of experiences. What I think it means they do not want to be perceived in the wrong way. One girl didn’t want to be seen by anyone after we fooled around. Didn’t want to have that fear of what would be said and the guilt that everyone new.
Now I suspect even if no one knew she would still feel the same. Why? Maybe she thinks she will be judged by her peers. Her friend was there with her that night and didn’t argue when she stayed. If it was so bad wouldn’t her friend made her go?
How does hooking up make you lose respect? How does having sex make you feel guilty after having fun with someone? What actually defines the walk of shame? I seem to keep coming up with questions.
I think this is a topic I need to research.
I doubt I can find local woman to fuck me to confirm. So I will reach out to the public and ask for you input. If you want to do an anonymous interview please use the contact page and drop me a note. You can also reach out to me on Twitter.