Bruised and sore

So this will obviously get a reaction from the few women that I see.  This is something that I have been working on dealing with. I am not kinky, and don’t give a woman pain. I have tried and dabbled when we first entered this world but quickly knew it was not for me.

A few of my women are into kink, including my wife.  It has something that has been part of our life but not part of me.  I am not able to do any of it after trying multiple different things. Don’t get me wrong, I understand a lot after being in the kink lifestyle by association. Long ago I found out that I could not give pain to any woman.  So with that in mind, and then having this whole world opening up to my wife and me it has been a soul searching time for both of us.
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Intense

Not the first time I have been told I am intense.  More often I am told the first little while talking to a new girl I am very intense.  The only thing that I can come up with is that the new relationship energy (NRE) is so high that it is like a drug.  It consumes you.  Takes over your world and you can’t get enough of it.  Like any drug it wears off.  The problem is that there is no time frame and everyone is different.

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Re-Union with Lilly

Funny how distance can make relationships feel like a new experience after many months.  Lily planned to visit with her kids for a Canadian vacation for our second meet up of the year.   Knowing that it will be a challenge to have her alone to spend time together since all our kids will be home.  Normally for any event, I don’t think about it to much.   Have had many disappointments in the past so I try to stay in check up to the day of the event.  But my excitement got higher with each day passing. Continue reading Re-Union with Lilly

Sex talk

Sex is usually talked about behind closed doors.  Something that is instilled by our parents when we are young.  It is taboo.  Shouldn’t be talked about.  Heck even TV and movies didn’t show anything since it is so bad for you.  Fast forward some years ahead (nice try, birthday is coming up but not going to reveal my age that easy) and the landscape has changed somewhat.  For one, TV has embraced sex.  The regular tv stations are trying to match what the subscription based ones have done for the past few years.  Hard to do since they have had full nudity along with some very graphic sex scenes.  It is a step in the right direction.  Sex is natural.  It happens regardless if we talk about it, show it, or even do it ourselves.

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Three years later

I wouldn’t have expected to have two wives.  Didn’t expect it would also be three years into the relationship and it feels more like we have been married for longer.  Having two wives is a lot of work.  Balancing emotions, needs along with two very different personalities can be draining.  Plus the other relationships that I have also take energy.  You can see why I am tired now. Continue reading Three years later

Introductions to my wife

Over the years that we have been in the lifestyle (has it been for years already?) I have made a lot of new friends.  Most of these women have met my wife.  As well I have met majority of their spouses.  I don’t think anything of it when introducing my new friends/lovers to my wife.  Something that we have learned is having Krystalla know them in person.  Helps when I am out with them on a date. Continue reading Introductions to my wife

Finally together again

Monday morning and I am still tired.  Lilly was here since Thursday evening.  She flew in after a slight delay with the plane being late.  It was an odd feeling going to the airport and not being the one travelling.  Seems that I have travelled more in the past year then the past 10 years.  A big smile appears on her face when she sees me waiting for her.  With a long hug and kiss we headed off.

We covered off how the flight was.  Discussed family and just enjoyed being together again.  My mind was debating a few times if I should pull over to give a proper greeting but with it being later then planned with the delay it would just be easier to wait till we got home.  Unfortunately the construction along the highway almost caused us to be delayed.  Luckily I was one of those guys that rode the lane till I had to merge.  Surprisingly we didn’t have much of a delay, although one guy was a little pissed off that I went around him.  Sorry bud, I am on mission to get home safely and we already are behind by an hour.

Upon arriving Krystalla was up, along with the excited dogs.  Greetings went well considering and once the dogs settled down we had a drink and caught up.  Krystalla and Lilly chatted like long lost friends.  Love my wife for that.  She knows pretty much all my women (although there is one that will be meeting her soon, just matter of timing).  After a few drinks for me and one for the ladies we were off to bed.

Needless to say we were up late.  To be fair we didn’t get back home till late.  Tomorrow I was off and the house to myself since the kids will be in school. Even though we have a full day alone together we made the up for lost time that night.  I giggle to myself as I watch Lilly try to control her volume as we had sex.  It was cute.

On four hours of sleep I got up with the dogs.  Once they had their morning routine completed I headed downstairs with coffee in hand and xbox controller in the other.  Plugged the headset in so not to disturb Lilly.  Unfortunately I should have worn a gag since I was cursing the other players in Halo as I was getting slaughtered.  She heard that part.

I almost cheered when the house became empty.  I was coming in from the garage after receiving a text from Lilly when I stopped dead in my tracks.  She was dressed in lingerie and net stockings with garter belt.  Most of my women know that I am not into clothing, since it seems to come off so quickly, but this caught my eye.  My cock reacted very well to it too.  It didn’t take long to have her downstairs again and back in bed.  The day went by slowly, with talking, sex and more talking.  This was the first day since we originally met back in January were we weren’t on a clock and had things to do.  It was relaxing, and something I think we needed after the previous visits being so chaotic with activities.

I did make a promise to her a while ago.  It was something that she wanted to try, and had worked out a plan over the week regarding on how to make it happen.  It was nothing too complicated.  Leading her downstairs I then asked her to strip.  As she was getting undressed I pulled out the sex swing and got it hooked up.  I notice that to her “undress” means bra and panties on.  I corrected her and said “everything,” she smiled and took the rest of her clothes off.  I then helped her into the swing.  There she was spread eagle with a full view of her pussy, as I pulled out the blindfold from my pocket and put it over her eyes.  Quickly asking about her safe words to make sure I understood to ensure I didn’t do anything to much for her.

Taking the candle out I light it.  Got some of the wax melted and then proceed to apply it very slowly and carefully on her.  She whimpered and moaned when each drop hit her skin.  As more wax melted it then started to drip more then a few drops and she got louder, and asked to have it slower.  Like I can control wax when it drips off the candle.  Doing my best I worked to only let one drop fall.  After covering her body in certain spots I stopped.  I then proceed to fuck her.  The swing allows movement so in reality you don’t have to do as much hip movement, but your arms seem to work more.  She was in heaven as she bounced off my cock and shudder and shake with enjoyment.  I am happy that I had the chance to get to try the wax with her.

The afternoon ended up with the quad meeting and their introductions to Lilly.  Being worried on how Lexxi will be has been on my mind for a while since it is going to be my weekend with Lilly.  This has been communicated to me by Krystalla very clearly.  Conversation flowed easily, and even though I was drained from the past 24 hrs I enjoyed myself.  It wasn’t a late night with Lilly and myself being up so late the night before.  When we crawled into bed we cuddled and fell asleep in each others arms.

 

The bug

Being sick is not fun.  More so if you are trying to keep your partner from getting sick.  The “no contact” that you try to ensure during the illness takes a lot of effort.  More so if you have multiple friends that you see.  The hardest thing is that if you see them less often, you sometimes might be selfish and not say anything.
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Door Swinging Open

Open relationship is very different then swinging.  Primarily open relationships is usually alone play and swinging is a group.  The differences in emotions along with the experience can make it difficult for some couples.  For our relationship we started a bit backwards.  We explored the open relationship and then transitioned to swinging based on circumstance.

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Love, Life, and the lifestyle

I haven’t had to explain my situation of late.  When I do the hardest part for people to understand is why?  My girlfriend wrote Why Poly? Why Not? recently regarding this and I would like to expand on it a bit too.  Well more add my two cents about my thoughts and experiences.

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