Sex talk

Sex is usually talked about behind closed doors.  Something that is instilled by our parents when we are young.  It is taboo.  Shouldn’t be talked about.  Heck even TV and movies didn’t show anything since it is so bad for you.  Fast forward some years ahead (nice try, birthday is coming up but not going to reveal my age that easy) and the landscape has changed somewhat.  For one, TV has embraced sex.  The regular tv stations are trying to match what the subscription based ones have done for the past few years.  Hard to do since they have had full nudity along with some very graphic sex scenes.  It is a step in the right direction.  Sex is natural.  It happens regardless if we talk about it, show it, or even do it ourselves.

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It was a dark and snowy night

The lights shiny brightly as the bus pulled into the terminal.  Glancing around I see that I am the only one heading towards it.  Doors open with the familiar swoosh sound and I head up the stairs to board the bus.  It is dark, being it is night time there are no running lights inside.  I glance down the isle to head to my seat and notice a woman sitting near the middle.  She glanced up briefly as I moved down the isle and then back down at her phone.  I maneuvered myself with my bags into a seat just ahead of her’s and settle in for the long ride. Continue reading It was a dark and snowy night

Long ride

For some of you that know me, or follow me on Twitter I am heading back to see my other girlfriend.  It will take about 12 hours by bus to get there.  Most of you are shaking your head but let me explain.

I have been working on going back to see Lilly for a few months now.   One hold up was my passport.   Second was how to get there.   I had booked the days a while back to ensure we were both available.  It was how to get there which was the next hurdle.   This has been an eye opener to say the least.

First is that flying is fine if you have a long term plan.   Don’t every wait till last minute.  The cost went up and up from around $280 to $800.  Fucking insane.  So that basically scraped
that option. 

Train was proposed by a coworker and that sounded like a good idea.   Unfortunately the lay over in Buffalo was 10 hours so I scrubbed that one quick too.   That left driving as the only option. 

So I spent many a day researching the drive with toll roads and what options I have driving down there.  After many hours I came across a suggestion for bus.   Never occurred to me.  When I looked it up I found it was cheaper for gas then driving.  Granted I add a few hours to travel but I don’t have to stress when travelling through states and all the toll roads.  Plus I can sleep, which I suspect I will need coming home. 

So with this decided and my passport being delivered fairly quickly I booked the bus and started to work out timing.  Luckily it looks like it won’t be overly complicated using transit.  Hopefully things go smooth and weather is in my favour. 

Needles to say it has been a crazy few weeks in trying to figure this trip out.  Everyone who knows has been supportive and even offer suggestions.  With only a another day to go I will be heading down to see Lilly which is way over due. 

When planning long distance relationships rendezvous it seems planning your travel plans early is the best option.  Last minute just doesn’t work (unless you are going some place designated as vacation then it seems you can find deals).  Luckily I have found a cheap solution that can work hopefully for Lilly when she plans to visit next.

With that I will be out of contact this weekend with limited access to the Internet.  Hopefully I can post some updates and maybe pictures on Twitter.  Guess we shall see in just over 48 hrs. 

Stood up

I would think I am polite and nice guy.  If I am not able to meet then I would let the other person know.  Common courtesy. At least that is how I operate.

I have meet a few women online that seem to think that doesn’t matter.   Have been ignored, deleted with no explanation and numerous other things with varying degree of disrespect.  It agitates me with some situations and others infuriating me.  Some of this is instilled from my childhood.  Primarily  being ignored.  Won’t go into specifics but it is the one thing that will set me off. Continue reading Stood up

Branching Out

We have been asked by our good friends at to contribute some posts to their site.  The Quad  now has a short BIO on their site as of this week.  I have no idea what to expect from this but I am looking forward to having the creative juices stirring again.  If there are posts that have my input I will inform you of the post for you to read at your leisure.

Here is our introduction on their site: The Quad

Unexpected Deaths

You never are prepared for some one passing away.   For me I have had my grandparents around longer than most of my friends.  With that said my grandfather past away on Sunday, Jan 31st which was not expected.  He has been doing well considering that he was 86.

Similar to when Krystalla told me she wanted to open up the relationship I was in a bit of a daze.  This was unexpected news since there was no warning.   All of my previous passings including my sister were more knowing it was going to happen.  I was in a bit of shock when it happened.  I thought I would shut down.   I didn’t.  All of the women I talked to the women in my life reached out.  They entertained me.  Kept my mind busy.  It was unexpected the support I received that day.   It is something that I’m not used too.   I’m usually in the shadows and didn’t know the amount of support I have around me.

This is my last grandparent that was alive.  With that thought it has made me reflect also on who I have left in my life for family and friends.  It also makes me realized how lucky I am for the women in my life.  There are days that I wonder if I am crazy to have so many women.  After this past week I really don’t know what I would have done.  Not saying that my wife couldn’t have supported me.  After twenty years she knows me so well.  It was the additional support that day that helped me get through it.  I did take a day off later in the week to decompress since work has been too busy to take time off.

I want to thank everyone who showed me support.  Between facebook, twitter and the texts that day it made this tragic event bearable.  You don’t understand how much it meant to me to have that support in the way it presented itself.

Three years later

I wouldn’t have expected to have two wives.  Didn’t expect it would also be three years into the relationship and it feels more like we have been married for longer.  Having two wives is a lot of work.  Balancing emotions, needs along with two very different personalities can be draining.  Plus the other relationships that I have also take energy.  You can see why I am tired now. Continue reading Three years later

Introductions to my wife

Over the years that we have been in the lifestyle (has it been for years already?) I have made a lot of new friends.  Most of these women have met my wife.  As well I have met majority of their spouses.  I don’t think anything of it when introducing my new friends/lovers to my wife.  Something that we have learned is having Krystalla know them in person.  Helps when I am out with them on a date. Continue reading Introductions to my wife

Reflection and moving foward

It is funny how time passes.  The holidays were here and gone.  It went by quickly and even though we didn’t do anything to involved it still flew by.  Now it’s 2016 and the new year has started.  I begin my new job in a few weeks, although I suspect I will be doing training sooner.  Looking forward to the overdue change.  The past year has been tough.  New relationships, loss, frustration and being overwhelmed has been something I am not used too.  I was injured as well and took me out of the gym, which was a routine I sorely miss.

Looking back I think 2015 will be a year that was not about growth but about overcoming.  I had to overcome a lot this past year.  Work, family, and relationships have all come to a head this past year and it took a lot out of me to get through it all.  As we are supposed to tell out spouses everything I feel that I am still hiding in the corner and they are growing.  This is great for them, but for me I am starting to realize how simple I am in most aspects of sex.  Nothing wrong with that either.  Just something that is starting to me make me feel that I am not fully involved.  We had company over for New Years Eve and it is something to watch all the kink talk.  It didn’t do anything for me so I was completely alone during this conversation.  I understand it, which is good.  Just not something that I don’t get off on talking about since I can never do it to a woman.  Of course this is the more extreme with having my wife’s poly husband being a sadist.

This leaves me with a few things that I am looking forward to this year.  My new job for one.  It should challenge me and give me some direction that I haven’t had in sometime.  Secondly is my exercicse program.  I can’t afford the gym right now so I have been working on how I will be working out.  I need to drop the weight after my accident.  If I can do that till I have the funds to do the jiu jitsu again that will help a lot.  Third is the women in my life.  They are important to me and working out how to see them and making time for them is something that I need to focus on as well.  I feel bad about not being able to be free all the time.  Just have to figure out how to balance time with them.  To not feel that I am ignoring them.  And to spend time with them both in the physical and non physical means.

2016 will be a great year.  Positive that the changes that I have gone through in 2015 has made me stronger.  It will be a year of change.  Growth.  Learning from the past year and taking that knowledge to grow and become more of who I really am.  Who is that?  With all the changes from 2015 I feel that I am going to find out more about that.

Last few days went by too quick

Saturday was relaxing considering how tired we were the night before.  I got up with the dogs at my usual time.   We really didn’t do much Saturday.   The quad and Lilly get to know each other better.  Also had the photo shoot that Numbnutts promised.  I didn’t watch much of it but from the pics should look stunning.  I even got to watch her change in front of me.  Had to resist not taking her right there.

We also found out that Chad and Mellisa would be attending the party tonight.   I’m happy that Lilly gets to meet most of my local friends while she is her.  After dinner we then started eyeing the time.  We got a few hands of Cards Against Humanity.  Funny how a raunchy game can make people turn in to silly kids again.  After we finished the game we then got ready for the party. Continue reading Last few days went by too quick